On days when the weight of the past weighs heavily on your shoulders, try shouting as loud as you can in a wide open space or a room on your own. Visualize the pain as you do it and just allow yourself to feel it before expelling it from your heart and mind.
Katherine Mayfield, an award winning psychiatrist and author, believes that any emotion release benefits her move on from her emotionally abusive childhood.
‘The more you can release your pent-up feelings, the more of the past you’ll clear away. Go to a sad movie and cry buckets, or whack a bed with a plastic bat—whatever works for you. Releasing emotions releases energy, which you can then use to create a more authentic life.’
5. Respect yourself
Don’t ever forget that you’re worthy of respect. Many people who experience childhood abuse try to alleviate the pain they feel through legal and illegal substance abuse, as well as food.
Don’t fall into the trap of accepting that you are worthy of poor treatment.
Take the time to look at other people, imagine each of them has been through the same experiences as you have and then ask yourself if you still think they are worthy of respect.
The answer will undoubtedly be yes, so don’t look at yourself as undeserving.
6. Nourish relationships
Love and joy are two things that the more we share them the more we receive in return. It may sound cheesy, but it’s true. If you’ve had a tough time when you are young, it can be difficult to see the truth in the lesson. In spite of your parents` treatment of you, you still love them and only wish to feel the same emotion in return. This can make accepting, loving relationships difficult.
However, by nourishing the relationships that you have built in your adult life, you will learn that love is an emotion that can give you the sense of belonging that you were never given as a child. Spend time with friends, have long lazy Sundays with your partner and show your kids the love you wished you had received every single day.
7. Be your own coach and cheerleader
The most valuable lesson that you can learn from a tough childhood is just how strong you can be all on your own. No matter how bad things were, you made it out the other side and now have all the potential in the world to thrive personally, professionally and spiritually. This is a lesson that takes longer to learn when you’ve grown up with a strong support network.
So next time you begin to feel shame, regret, anger or hate rise to the surface as a result of your upbringing just remember how strong you can be. When you are considering taking a risk remind yourself that you can do it. Even on those occasions when you feel alone and unsupported, remember that you are responsible for all the best qualities that you possess.
The best way to do this is to write down the five qualities you like and respect most about yourself and your top three biggest individual accomplishments. This list will serve as a reminder that no matter how your life began, you have seized the initiation and improved it off your own back.
Recovering from your negative childhood memories takes a great deal of mental strength. However, by accepting the feelings and addressing them, you are taking a step towards personal acceptance, as well as furthering your ability to empathize with others in situations of suffering. So don’t dwell on your painful past, focus on your beautiful future.
Source – Spirit Science