Why You Get Close To Certain People and Then They Suddenly Leave

“God doesn’t give you the people you want, he gives you the people you need. To help you, to hurt you, to leave you, to love you and to make you the person you were meant to be.” – Anonymous.

It’s a common notion that nobody really knows why you experience certain feelings for a certain someone. We often wonder why we feel so connected to a stranger or how can we bond with someone in such a way.

While there are no definite answers to these questions, I feel that it’s God who brings people in our lives we need at that particular phase. These people are the ones who are there in our lives because we learn lessons from them about life or about ourselves.

God inclines our hearts to a certain someone and has valid reasons for it.

Pause for a moment, take a deep breath and think about all the people you have met in your life and they have left you.

I felt exactly the way you are feeling now. All the people who have left us did teach us valuable lessons. They have been temporary but their roles were long-lasting. They have changed us, set us on a different path and then left us, liberating us. Hard as it might sound, their presence in our lives have been temporary, at least for most of them.

Often, it’s our various phases in our lives which determine the kind of people we become close to. It’s God who sends him at the time we need them so that we can grow, we can learn, we can explore ourselves, face our fears and inner darkness and…evolve!

But we mistake the role of these people. We get so attached to them that we wish to make them permanent but permanence doesn’t always give the impact these people give in their temporariness. That is why God has sent them in our lives so that the impact lasts forever, not the people who are responsible for it.

It’s frustrating and all of us have gone through this.

Angels however, are there to be with people in need and then fly away to pastures where green comes with them. Once the pasture is green, the angels have a different destination.

That is why, these people who come in our lives as angels are meant to stay only for that phase when we need their guidance.

And what good comes out of it?

We not only become a better person but also understand the value of letting go. Detaching oneself is the most liberating thing we can ever learn and practice. That’s what God wants us to be…to let go of the boundaries of our self and embrace the universe.

The role of these people gets over when their work is done. The play of our lives flow on but they can’t be brought back in the acts which follow.

That’s why they are precious, that’s why their memories have meanings in our lives.

There are also people who are meant to be with us through life and death. God sends them too and when they come in our lives, we can easily recognize them and understand that some people are there in our lives to guide us while some are there to be with us.