What Is Feminine Energy? Top 3 Ways For Successful Women To Be In Their Feminine Energy

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What Is Feminine Energy

As high-achieving women of this modern-day and age, we all live in a highly masculinized world. My work as a top international dating and relationship expert rests on the fundamental premise that living and connecting with our feminine energy is the key to achieving love transformation in our lives and romantic relationships.

I firmly believe that this connection we women have with our feminine energy is our single biggest power in romantic relationships and around our men.

Unfortunately, it is also a power that is largely neglected and ignored in todayโ€™s world. We are all women of an era where the messages of femininity have been mocked and equated with being a doormat, or somehow being subservient to men.

This, of course, isnโ€™t true by any means.

These are myths that are propagated by those that have an incomplete knowledge of this concept and a lack of awareness on what it truly means to be connected with this Universal energy, endowed to us women by nature.

It helps to remember that, when weโ€™re talking about feminine energy, we are reconnecting you to that force that already exists within you. Hence, you donโ€™t essentially have to change yourself, but rather embrace those womanly parts and elements within you, that Universal energy has already gifted to you.

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What Is Feminine Energy?

For the purpose of clarity, let us revisit the definition of feminine energy.

It is the โ€œbeingโ€ energy, in contrast to the masculine โ€œdoing energyโ€. When you are in this โ€œbeingโ€ energy, you are in the receptive mode and allow your man, experiences, and life itself, to fill you up. This is again opposite to masculine energy, which is a forward-moving, penetrative force that โ€œgets things doneโ€.

When you are in your feminine energy, you are not busy doing, but instead enjoying that which is before you.

This idea of โ€œnot doing and just beingโ€ may feel like an alien and almost annoying concept at first, especially to those of us who have trained ourselves to be in our masculine 24/7. However, it helps to remember that reconnecting with our femininity is the key to restoring that balance that is missing today from so many womenโ€™s lives.

Yes, you want that external career success, but you also want that amazing, fulfilling relationship โ€“ that is what a balanced life looks like, and that is what reconnecting with your feminine energy will help you achieve.

The Benefits Of Being In Your Feminine Energy

A woman who knows how to connect with her feminine side will naturally and effortlessly be irresistible to men, or to her current partner. This is true, even for highly successful and powerful women.

Look at my own life as an example. I run a heart-centred, super successful company that helps powerful women find and keep love. I have a six-figure salary and I am a CEO, and yet I am a mother to a toddler and a wife to a man who adores the ground I walk on.

Learning how to balance my highly developed, ambitious masculine side with the softness and receptive energy of femininity has been the game-changer for me. This is why I feel so passionate about bringing forward this message to other strong and successful women, who are struggling in dating and relationships and somehow feel they have to give up on their career success or play โ€œdumbโ€ in order to attract or keep a good man in their life.

Short answer: You donโ€™t. 

You just have to learn how to reconnect with your feminine energy.

High quality men are by nature designed to be instinctively drawn towards a woman who is exuding femininity and confidence. And when I say confidence, I donโ€™t necessarily mean a loud, boisterous, boastful confidence that many of us strong and educated women have mastered in our boardrooms and meetings.

Feminine confidence can be subtle and discreet. Itโ€™s an inner sense of worth and light that a woman exudes, irrespective of the status of who is around her. I will be happy to share more of this wisdom on feminine confidence with you on another blog post. For today, I want to give you my top 3 ways on how you can start being more in your feminine energy in life, love, and relationships.

The blog is particularly going to help those strong, successful readers and clients of mine who are forced to be a lot in their masculine energy at work and business, and find it hard to reconnect with their feminine side, once back home with their man or on a date.

Related: 9 Signs You Are Dealing With An Unapologetically Powerful, Untouchable Woman

So without further ado, here are my top 3 ways to help you reconnect with your feminine energy:

1. Surrender more and stop controlling and pushing for outcomes with men.

One of the biggest masculine energy traits we modern women display in our dating and relationships with our men is the desire to be in control and have things โ€œour wayโ€. When we donโ€™t have things our way, when we cannot control him to do what we want him to do, we become upset and we assume he doesnโ€™t care.

Now my darlings, I do understand that this trait of controlling every detail to the T and pushing for the things you want has probably helped you achieve success in your professional life and career. You received your promotion by asking for it, your project was graded as outstanding because you managed and controlled every detail of it by yourself.

However, this masculine energy trait of control isnโ€™t your best friend when it comes to love and your romantic life.

Women who are constantly controlling and micromanaging repulse men on a very instinctual level. Men feel emasculated and โ€œless thanโ€ in the presence of such a woman.

One of the biggest gifts you can give a man who is in your life, whether your current partner or your date, is to allow him to be and feel like a man in your presence.

Remember: This isnโ€™t about playing helpless or unintelligent. This is about being a queen, a feminine diva who can โ€œallowโ€ men the absolute privilege of leading in relationship or dating situations.

What would giving up control look like in real life?

For starters, if youโ€™re feeling an urge to tell him where he should take you for a date or how he should buy the self -help book you recommend to solve his career problems, stop yourself in the moment.

If youโ€™re married or in a relationship, stop yourself when you feel an urge to fix him or tell him exactly how he should cook, or how exactly he should place the dishes in the dishwasher. Check out my advanced program for women in relationships, Soulmates Forever, that goes into great detail of the kind of controlling behaviours that kill attraction in all our relationships.

Once you stop controlling less and spot your urges to control him or the situation, you will start to find it easier to surrender more. You will be able to deal with some imperfection and be okay with what is, vs. always trying to have it your way.

So breathe and relax through those urges of control when they come up!

Imagine breathing out the tension and frustration you feel with him or the situation, and let love and the energy of surrender take over your body and soothe you. You donโ€™t have to control every minor detail of your relationship or the man in front of you. You can consciously choose to let some things go.

2. Get out of your head and connect more with your feelings.

The second element of femininity that you want to bring into your life and into your interactions with men is that of staying more connected with your feelings and being less in your head and thinking many thoughts.

On a daily basis, everything challenges us to manage so many things โ€“ right from our jobs, to our kids, to our households. It is obvious that, often, there is no time to even stop and feel, forget about expressing our feelings.

Plus, all the strong and successful ones amongst us have particularly learned to be ashamed of any sign of emotion that comes up. When we were little girls, we learned to call it โ€œweaknessโ€.

However, our emotions and feelings are the single biggest glue when it comes to connecting with our manโ€™s heart and bonding us to him.

The more you can connect with your own emotional world, the more you can connect with HIS emotional world.

When my clients tell me that their man is inexpressive and emotionally shut down, I often ask them to look within: โ€œWhere are you emotionally shut down? Where are you hiding from your own feelings?โ€

As women, we are the emotional leaders in our romantic relationships, and to re-establish connection with our menโ€™s hearts and experience emotional depth and fulfillment in our marriages and interactions with men, we first must re-establish connection with our own hearts.

I teach how to do this in detail in Soulmates Forever, my advanced program for women in relationships. I also recommend this for single ladies who want to learn advanced tools for understanding energy dynamics between man and woman in romantic relationships, how to communicate productively and effectively, and much more. You can check it out here.

Related: What Strong Women Often Get Wrong About Finding Love  

3. Slow down and be present in the moment.

The third element of empowered feminine energy is learning how to slow down in the moment and be present.

If youโ€™re anything like who I used to be, your day starts and ends with a rush. You want to get a lot of things done, and the faster you do things, the more you get done.

Logically correct โ€“ and yet all that walking fast and talking fast prevents you from being truly present in the moment and enjoying what it has to offer.

And again, while this speed could be beneficial for your professional life, it is not beneficial for your romantic life.

Feminine energy is all about slowing down and enjoying the moment. Itโ€™s about drinking the coffee for its aroma and warmth, not just for the caffeine hit.

When a woman can slow down and be present in the moment and connected to her pleasure, she becomes a magnet to men!

A woman connected with her femininity can find the joy in the now, no matter what life throws at her.

So, this week, see if you can get yourself to slow down, even if for a few minutes. At the start and end of a day, and especially on your dates or when youโ€™re around your man.

Do the cooking, but do it with a spring in your step! Do the driving to work, but do it with a song on your lips. Drink the coffee, but make sure to enjoy its aroma.

Take a break from work, open the window and feel the fresh breeze on your face and allow it to relax you. Suck the juice of the moment and see what it does to your overall levels of joy and satisfaction in life.

Related: 10 Biggest Mistakes Women Make In Relationships

Thatโ€™s it from me for now. Iโ€™d love to hear back from you in the comments on how these tips felt for you, and how you are getting along with implementing them.

Check out Sami Wunderโ€™s blog for more such interesting articles on love and relationships.


Written By Sami Wunder
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