It’s a very popular notion that women are probably better at handling relationships than men because they are more emotionally mature and emotionally intelligent than men. But still, there are a few mistakes that women make that end up ruining their relationships for good.
“Love is not simply giving; it is judicious giving and judicious withholding as well. It is judicious praising and judicious criticizing. It is judicious arguing, struggling, confronting, urging, pushing, and pulling in addition to comforting. It is leadership. The word “judicious” means requiring judgment, and judgment requires more than instinct; it requires thoughtful and often painful decision making.” – M. Scott Peck, The Road Less Travelled
Relationships like any other area of life, require a balance of intellect and emotion. The most common mistake that people make in relationships is that they get carried away by their instinct and emotion and totally forget to make use of their intellect and judgment. And this pattern is exaggerated for women because they are wired differently than men. They see and interact with the world differently than men.
Here Are 10 Biggest Mistakes Women Make In Relationships
1) You don’t know your own worth.
Here are the truth ladies: If you don’t love and value yourself, it will reflect in your behavior big time. And this is one of the biggest mistakes women make in relationships.
Are you attracted to unavailable guys? Do you chase after them even after they don’t show any interest in you? Do you shy away from putting your needs across or asking for what you want? Do you put up with unacceptable behavior; hoping things would change for the better someday?
If you answered yes to most of the above-mentioned questions, then you, my friend do not know your own worth and as a result, are engaging in self-sabotaging behavior. And men are not blind to such behavior. No man likes or respects a woman who allows him to treat her shabbily.
Your lack of self-worth could stem from two fears: fear of not being good enough and fear of not being lovable.
Ironically, these two fears make you behave in ways that actually make you far from attractive and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
And the only way to break the cycle is to get to know your worth, know what you deserve, and to not put up with anything or anyone that doesn’t treat you with respect and love. If you lose such a person who doesn’t treat you with love and respect, it is actually not a loss but a huge blessing.
“If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for a while, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.” ― Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom
2) You stay more in your masculine energy.
Everyone has both masculine and feminine energy within them, irrespective of gender. To be a balanced and evolved human being, one needs to balance these two energies.
But sometimes women in a bid to become successful at their careers or due to the pressure of being a single parent or sole provider of the family become more established in their masculine energy.
They are highly successful at their careers but they are not able to drop their masculine role and embrace their feminine energy even after they step out of their workplace.
The problem is that masculine energy comes across like you can do everything on your own whereas feminine energy is more about receptivity.
Men are wired to be the providers and problem solvers. They want to be your hero and serve you.