It’s a known fact that extroverts and introverts can’t really get along, but that may depend on factors such as environment, personal background, conversational skills, etc. Here are a few heads up for extroverts who must be aware of these 15 Extroverted Behaviors That Annoy An Introvert The Most.
In our modern world where extroverts are socially acclaimed and honored, it’s hard for us introverts to have our say in the way we want things to be. Extroverts tend to excel in various walks of life thanks to their outgoing attitude, lovable personality and smooth conversational skills. On the other hand, introverts have a hard time paving our path under the pressures and expectations of society. But we manage. All I’m saying our life would be a little easier if our counterparts, the extroverts, would be a little more aware of their behaviors that annoy us.
There I’ve said it, on behalf of all my fellow introverts. Yes, extroverts have a certain set of behaviors that tend to get on our nerves sometimes – and they can be seriously annoying. When I’m taking a walk in the park alone. please don’t come crashing into me to have a full blown conversation at 6 in the morning. Give me some time to recharge from the get together we had over the weekend. This is the thing about introverts – we need time. Time to process the happenings in our life all in our head so that we understand ourselves at a deeper level. We need time.
But without further ado, let’s educate our counterparts as to how they need to approach us just so they don’t go ruining our perfect day.
Related: If you are not aware of the behaviors of an introvert or maybe not sure you have introvert behaviors, here are 13 Signs You Are An Introvert.
Here are 15 Extroverted Behaviors That Annoy Introverts The Most:
15. The Assumption That Everyone Should Be Extroverted
This can be very frustrating. We would rather be appreciated for our presence because it literally took us a little more than all the courage we had to be at an event in the first place. Once we get there, we’re cool with the greetings. But when it comes down to having a proper conversation with people who expect you to be as extroverted as they are, that’s when we want to shut down. Well, we don’t want to but that’s what happens.
You see, as introverts we spend more time in our heads than we do in the real world. At least that’s what it feels like. We have thoughts racing around our heads at different speeds and when we are even slightly suggested to keep up with a conversation, our thoughts crash into each other. Our mind goes blank from the collision. We’re not trying to be rude in any way if you don’t get an answer you were expecting. So, don’t ever expect every person you come across at a gathering to be extroverted.
14. Listening Only With The Intention Of Replying
This one’s a real bummer. Listening is one of the greatest introvert behaviors that we take pride in. We prefer listening rather than talking. We process stories and conversations in a different way in our minds, so using our sight and hearing senses would be enough. Due to our incredible listening ability, we tend to reply with great insight – giving you the solid answer or advice you need to proceed. Since we perform this skill like it’s an art, we expect to be listened to and answered to in the same manner. But those are just our expectations.
If extroverts have the audacity to expect everyone to be extroverted, then is it too much to ask for to just listen to us as we speak? Extroverts tend to listen only with the intention of replying. This really annoys us introverts because we expect to be given solid advice or better perspectives which can only be done if you listen to understand.
13. Constant Blabbering And Mindless Chatter
How do you extroverts go on for hours and hours blabbering about how you cried over spilt milk? Or about how your little child is better than her little friend? Okay, we get it. Your tongues and lungs work better than your intuition. But won’t you slow it down sometimes? We’re introverts but that doesn’t mean we don’t have an opinion or perspective to share. We might as well shut you up with one of our insightful remarks. You never know. So instead of blabbering your heart out, why not sit in silence and meditate on what has happened over the last few hours? Sounds much better doesn’t it?
12. Constantly Being Asked If We’re Okay Because We Can’t Afford A Fake Smile
Fake smiles require a lot of effort. I’d rather have my ‘not bothered’ face on the whole day. Some introverts have mastered the art of faking a smile in public, but maintaining our poker faces are a part of our introvert behaviors. If we are genuinely happy then of course we’ll smile. It’s not that we’re not happy. We’re just not used to society’s pressure of needing everyone to be happy 24/7. It’s just not possible.
This is why introverts tend to wander off to the corner of the room or go outside for a walk alone. We prefer putting on our real faces rather than faking a smile.
11. Spontaneous Invitations To Hang Out
‘Let’s hang out some time.’ ‘Please, no!’ is our first reaction. Don’t worry it only happens in our head. That may be the reason we sound kind of hesitant to reply to your spontaneous invitation. We need time to think it through. As introverts, we’ve planned most of our week in our head and we’ve drawn a fine line between our social time, alone time and work time. It is what it is. We find it hard to force ourselves to make arrangements with our mentally planned out schedule.
So if you’re going to invite an introvert to hang out, you might want to plan it way before hand so that we can manage to slip a hang out in the coming week or so. Don’t ever take it personally if we reject your invitation, we just need time to think it through or maybe build a better connection with you.
10. Assuming That We Can Hang Out Because We Have ‘Nothing To Do’
‘Doing nothing’ is just another way of saying ‘I’m recharging my social battery’. We need our timeout to just be with ourselves and relax. Having nothing to do or having no company is our way of having a good time. It may sound lame or boring but it’s essential for us introverts. We respect those who respect our personal time. Of course we can hang out some other time, but when I have ‘nothing to do’ and you come up with some event that we should go to – I’m tapping out. This too should not be taken personally.
Better to be fully recharged and enjoy time together than be drained before the event has even started. We would rather be at home with nothing to do.
9. Showing No Respect For Personal Conversations
If you are aware of basic social cues, which introverts are very aware of although we may not respond in the most appropriate way, then you know when a conversation becomes personal. In a personal conversation, we share our deeper thoughts and happenings – things that we don’t tell just everybody. We let you in on our business because we trust you, you matter and we’re hoping for a possible advice or change of perspective. Now, if you take what we say and run with it to the first group of people you see – it’s over. No trust, no more personal conversations. We expect you to respect our personal issues at all costs.