Are you wondering how to end a relationship because you are in one right now that is making you miserable?
Are you scared about what’s next and wondering how to know when to end a relationship because right now you are feeling nothing but pain?
Let me help you.
Deciding to let go of someone you love is a very hard thing to do. Much like the hope that a coma victim will wake up, the hope of resurrecting lost love is one that’s hard to let go of.
So how do you decide? Check out my list below. If any, or all, of these criteria fit your situation then perhaps it’s time to end your relationship and move on.
#1 – Do you guys still have fun?
The first question to ask yourself is do you and your guy still have fun together?
I know that you did in the beginning. You would stay up late at night talking about things, you would go on grand adventures and enjoy just being together and laughing.
Do you still do that regularly? Perhaps the initial excitement has tapered off some but do you still enjoy each other’s company? Does your heart skip a beat when he walks into the room. Do you choose time with each other, more often than not, over time with others?
If the fun is gone from your relationship then it might be time to get out. Once problems start we always hope that we can get to that exciting beginning place but if the fun and enjoyment is gone, it’s hard to replace it.
#2 – Is he giving you mixed messages?
Is your man alternating hot and cold? Do some days he seem like his loving self and then others is he crabby and distant and no fun to be with?
Unless your man has bi-polar disorder, a man who is playing up and down with his woman is a man no longer interested.
If a man wants something, particularly a woman, he will move heaven and earth to get it. If your man only wants you some days and not others then he isn’t making any effort at all to keep you.
So, unless your man is always hot for you, let him go.
#3 – Does he have nothing to give you?
Having a man who runs hot and cold can be very upsetting. Even worse, but harder to spot, is a man who gives you nothing.
Has your man stopped asking how you are doing? Has he stopped asking you out on dates or bringing home the groceries or including you in activities with his friends? Does he no longer listen when you talk or seem to care at all about what you think?
A man like this is a man who has nothing left to give to the woman he used to love.
Unfortunately, for many women, when they are trying to save a relationship that was once so promising, they become so obsessed with saving it that they don’t notice how little of it still exists.
They will talk more to fill in the silences left by the absence of questions. They will invite themselves along on outings they weren’t invited to. They will plan things that the two of them can do together. As a result, women don’t notice that their man has completely checked out.
So, take a moment and think about your relationship. What has your man done for you lately? If the list is short then it’s time to let him go.
#4 – Does history keeps repeating itself.
Are you and your guy stuck in a cycle of good and bad, up and down, highs and lows? Are there days when things feel almost like they used to and then days when things are so bad that you want to cry?