Dear Man Who Loves The Woman Who Has Been To Hell and Back,
Last year I published the article, How To Love A Woman Who Has Been To Hell and Back.
This article has since been republished on more websites than I could even tell you.
It has been shared hundreds of thousands of times all around the world, and has received millions of views. I can’t tell you how many hundreds of messages I’ve received from women who have thanked me for giving them the words they could never say.
But in the last while, my inbox has also been filled with messages from men such as you.
Men who are trying to love the woman who has been to hell and back, but are struggling.
Men who are doing the best they can, but are hurting. Men who are trying to understand more, do better, love harder, but aren’t sure if it’s worth the pain and exhaustion. Men who are confused, unsure, lost, and in need of answers.
Dear man, the fact that you love your woman so much that you are willing to read an article to understand her more is a truly wonderful thing.
That you would message me in the hope of knowing how to love her better is admirable. Men like you are rare, precious, and so appreciated.
The world needs more men like you.
Men who are strong, brave, resilient, determined, loyal, and willing to love at a high cost because you understand the worth of the woman you hold in your arms.
You are a testament to the masculine heart that encompasses both strength and gentleness, fierceness and kindness. Hearts like yours are worthy of respect, and I give thanks that you have chosen to love the woman in your life with such determination, commitment and resolve.
I understand how hard it is to love a woman who has been to hell and back.
Because the thing is, this woman carries in her heart a lifetime of pain that you didn’t cause. You didn’t inflict this pain on her. You didn’t hurt her. You didn’t damage her heart. You aren’t the reason she cannot fully love or trust.
But you are the one she pushes away. You are the one who tries to get close to her, to love her, but fails.
You are the one she won’t turn to when she’s in pain, the one she won’t talk to when she feels alone, the one she won’t draw near to when she needs someone the most.
You are the one she hurts, because she is hurting.
And you don’t deserve that.
I know what that does to your heart. I know of the times you are so damn frustrated at not knowing what to do. I know you feel like no matter how much you love her, it will never be enough.
I know you are exhausted at times, and are not sure how much more you can take of this storm. I know you feel confused and sometimes none of it makes sense and you lay awake at night and wonder if it’s worth it.
But the thing is, you’re still there.
You’re still there because something tells you this is worth it.