Do you know that the sleeping position in which you and your partner prefer to sleep in, can say a lot about you as a couple?
You’re laying in bed with your significant other, and you just so happen to be spooning them. Have you ever wondered what this means? Actually, whether you’re male or female changes the meaning of the spooning position. Neat huh? But what if you’re not a spooner?
According to relationship psychologist Corrine Sweet, “During sleep, you cannot fake your body language. This is the time when you are honest, vulnerable and your sleeping position can reveal a lot about your relationship.”
Here Is What Your Sleeping Position With Your Partner Says About Your Relationship
1. The Spoon
Ah, the spoon: the most common position for all couples, especially for people married three-to-five years. According to psychiatrist Samuel Dunkell, “When a woman assumes the posterior position, it may indicate she is the more giving partner or that he needs special nurturing.”
The Spoon provides the most amount of contact with your partner, ensuring physically closeness. It’s not necessarily erotic, instead, it’s “a comforting, safe cocoon,” says Shirley P. Glass, psychologist, and marital therapist.
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2. The Honeymoon Hug
The most intimate of sleeping positions. This less-common alternative to The Spoon tends to occur during periods where intense feelings are present, such as after lovemaking or the beginning of a relationship.
Some couples maintain it throughout their relationship, but, according to Elizabeth Flynn Campbell, a New York psychotherapist, “[the couple] could be overly enmeshed, too dependent on each other to sleep apart.”
3. Like Shingles (on a Roof)
This position denotes strong egos and a sense of entitlement, according to Samuel Dunkell, a position that tends to be quite popular. Normally, one partner is laying on their back while the other rests their head on the person’s shoulder, making him or her a dependent, compliant partner.
Shirley P. Glass notes “there’s a high level of trust here,” as this snuggling position has a “strengthening sense of comradeship and protection.”
4. The Sweetheart’s Cradle
A more amped up, intimate version of the above, The Sweetheart’s Cradle has one person holding the other instead of having a head simply anchored on a shoulder.
What you end up with is a very caring, nurturing, intimate position, creating a sense of protection and safeness.
5. Loosely Tethered
Remember when you first started dating or were married and there was a lot of physical closeness, even at the expense of your preferred sleeping position? As time goes on, though, people take this position, which is basically The Spoon with more distance.
It signifies trust, allowing for more space and comfort without sacrificing affection. Ultimately, this position represents balance.
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6. The Leg Hug
This position can really represent two things. First, it could mean that a couple isn’t entirely comfortable showing physical affection, so it comes off as it “accidentally” happens like a foot touched another one.
Second, it can be the complete opposite. It could “suggest familiarity, comfort, and a daring quality as well, almost like a secret code.”
7. The Pursuit
This is basically spooning, but one person chases the other. Imagine that someone retreats to the other side of the bed with their back turned to you. The Pursuit is when you approach that person and spoon them. This, too, can mean two things. The resulting spoon, according to Samuel Dunkell, can be labeled as “illegal Spooning” because the person retreats and wants their space.
Alternatively, the person distancing themselves wants to be pursued, which becomes an invitation or a game of cat and mouse. Yes, knowing which one you should do can be difficult, but that’s part of being in a relationship, as you begin to learn your partner’s body language.