“To enter into a state of pure connection with your child, you can achieve this by setting aside any sense of superiority.” – Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent
What kind of parent are you? What type of parenting styles do you adopt? Can you stay calm when you are pushed against the wall by your child?
Parenting is one of the greatest challenges of life. But it can also be one of the most rewarding experiences of life. However, as we get so involved in playing our role as a parent, we often forget what is best for our children and for their mental and emotional wellbeing. We follow a set pattern that defines our roles as a mom or a dad and as a result of this we are unable to savour the moments we share with children.
We are so engaged in playing the part of the parent that we tend to forget to experience the authenticity and the beauty of this time. Instead, we focus on developing a hierarchy based on our belief that we need to teach our children about the world and raise them right. We feel that we should tell them what to do and they should do exactly what we say. We decide how they live and who they become as we mould our children into our perception of what is best for them. What we believe will make them happy and successful. But that’s not how parenting works.
The truth is our children teach us about ourselves as much as we, as parents, teach them.
So the questions we need to be asking is how do we connect with our child? How do we let them grow up as their unique selves? How do we become conscious parents so that our children experience mental, emotional, physical and spiritual well being? The answer is conscious parenting.
What is Conscious Parenting?
“When you parent, it’s crucial you realize you aren’t raising a ‘mini me,’ but a spirit throbbing with its own signature. For this reason, it’s important to separate who you are from who each of your children is.” – Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent
Conscious parenting refers to creating a deeper connection with your child that allows you to truly understand them and nurture their unique essence as an individual. It allows you to be conscious and mindful in your interactions with your kids so that you can enjoy each moment spent with them.
However, you will be required to change your beliefs regarding parenting and how you observe the behavior of your child. You will need to respond more consciously to every action and behavior of the child. This requires you to work on yourself and your beliefs so that you can see your child as the individual he or she is instead of how you want to see them as.
Conscious Parenting does not follow any specific rules, strategies or techniques. But it doesn’t mean that there are no boundaries that your children need to follow.
- It is one of the most effective parenting styles that can be used at any level of your kid’s growth.
- This parenting philosophy is based on the belief that your child is separated from you.
- Your child is an independent being who wants to be their own authentic self, express what they feel and reach his/her fullest potential.
Conscious Parenting vs Modern Parenting
“Our children pay a heavy price when we lack consciousness. Overindulged, over-medicated, and over-labeled, many of them are unhappy. This is because, coming from unconsciousness ourselves, we bequeath to them our own unresolved needs, unmet expectations, and frustrated dreams.” – Shefali Tsabary, The Conscious Parent
Being a conscious parent means you utilize emotionally intelligent behavior to connect, engage and discipline with your child. This is one of the best parenting styles that are not based on retaliatory or penal methods to teach your child as a young mind can establish connections better through empathy and compassion. As a conscious parent you use ordinary moments from everyday life to create a deeper bond with your son or daughter. This allows you to learn to be a better parent through awareness and mindfulness.