“Our ability to handle life’s challenges is a measure of our strength of character.”
– Les Brown
It’s no surprise that life is full of challenges. But you know that already. However, some of us tend to have a hard time facing the challenges of life while others can overcome them with confidence. Overcoming obstacles head-on can be very fulfilling and give a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment. Facing challenges enables us to learn and grow from the experience, regardless of whether you succeed or fail. Perhaps this is the reason why all of us seek challenges subconsciously.
As the creator of your own life and reality, you have the inherent strength to overcome any and all challenges. This allows you to give a new direction to your life journey with a renewed sense of awareness and responsibility. As you develop a higher level of consciousness, you realize that challenges are nothing but opportunities that are designed to help you reach the next level of your life and unlock your higher self.
“Accept the challenges so that you can feel the exhilaration of victory.” – George S. Patton
Life is an uncertain roller coaster. You can choose to embrace it and enjoy the ride, joyfully learning from your experiences along the way; or you can choose to rebel against all of life’s challenges, resenting every moment of your journey. The latter robs you of any growth or development, while the former gives you the opportunity to learn from those challenges and become a better person for having experienced them.
While “better” may be relative, one thing is certain – “better” means improved. No matter where you find yourself, there is always room for improvement. Even a monk strives daily to improve himself, striving always to become a better person.
Challenges in life are a given, and they can be used to your advantage. Each one is an opportunity for personal growth and self-improvement. Ultimately, the goal is to use what you learn as you grow to become the best version of yourself.
Here are 6 common challenges in life you must overcome on your road to becoming a better person:
Whether you lose your job, an opportunity, or a relationship – loss is an inevitable part of life.
Regardless of how it happens, the loss is one of life’s biggest challenges. It can feel abrupt and disruptive. However, loss gives you the opportunity to reflect on what is truly important so that you to keep moving forward.
Losing something that you had, or really wanted, can be a welcome wake up call. Loss forces you to ask yourself, “What about what I lost was valuable to me?” and “What am I willing to do to get what I want?”
Choosing to examine your loss through the lens of these questions causes you to assess the true value of what you lost, as well as why you value it. Having a clear understanding of what you value and why you value it, is key to becoming a better person because it gives your words & actions integrity.
There is not a single person alive who hasn’t experienced failure. To grow, you must fail. Failure offers a natural checkpoint on your journey, one that allows you to evaluate your recent behavioral choices so that you can make improvements. When you fail, you get the chance to review your decisions and behaviors, like an athlete reviews the taped footage between games.
Reviewing the decisions and actions that lead you to fail is an invaluable exercise. Understanding how the decisions you made led to certain behaviors and actions can prevent you from making the same mistakes again. Such a review can also reveal important details you missed the first time that would allow you to take a better and more informed approach the next time.
The experience of failure causes you to develop compassion, empathy, and sympathy. Your experience gives you a point of commonality with anyone who has had a similar experience. Those three emotions are essential tools on your journey to becoming a better person because they allow others to feel safe and seen around you.
They have many names: missteps, monkey wrenches, unforeseen circumstances. But setbacks are ever-present on our journey to becoming a better person.
We have all experienced a slow in progress, hindrance or delay on our journey. The challenge is understanding why the delay happened. What caused our progress to slow down or plateau?
You can intellectually know all the right things to do or say, but there are those moments when your humanness gets the best of you. Despite your best efforts to be a better person, you suddenly do or say something you regret. Perhaps you react in a way that is negative or out of alignment with your desire to become a better person. It’s OKAY!
Setbacks are learning opportunities. Having a firm understanding of the types of things that slow your progress will allow you to both avoid and preempt them.
Resilience is one positive side effect of overcoming setbacks. The journey to becoming a better person requires that you be mentally tough. Setbacks are an organic way to build that mental toughness while still maintaining integrity in your actions and a sense of emotional awareness that promotes a safe environment where others feel seen.
4. Establishing Your Moral Compass
Distinguishing right from wrong for yourself is an ever-present life challenge. You may agree with one ideology today, and another tomorrow. Changing your mind is your right, and deciding where you stand is your responsibility. The two go hand in hand.
Deciding what you believe is important on your road to becoming a better person. Self-improvement is anchored in your own personal sense of right and wrong.
Most people act in accordance with their values and beliefs. Giving yourself permission to grow as a person means taking time to reexamine them both. It is possible you will discover that your values and beliefs are no longer in alignment with your end goal.
Thankfully, your assessment of the misalignment will lead you to do what is necessary to once again find your true north. The ability to self-correct will serve you on your journey.