Do you worry that you may be ego-driven? It happens to most of us at some point, so you aren’t alone! But, the problem arises if you don’t check your ego?
To understand if you are ego-driven, it can help to understand what your ego is. The ego isn’t who you are, but rather it is just a fragment of your consciousness.
What is the ego?
See, there are several aspects that makeup who you are as a conscious being. One, is the loving light that makes up your soul. This is the part of you that is strongly connected to the divine (and therefore connected to every other being as well).
The other is your ego, or the mask you wear that tells you that you are different from others. Your ego is your self-image in this physical reality. Because the ego observes your separation from others, it is often the part of you that seeks to protect you from others, rather than connect you with them.
The ego isn’t a “bad” thing, and it isn’t something you should try to get rid of. In fact, your ego does serve a very powerful purpose. It allows you to perceive the world from a unique, differentiated perspective. Without the ego, it would probably be pretty hard to root down into this physical world and have this experience as a separate, human consciousness.
When the ego is out of control.
With that being said, sometimes the ego does a lot more of the driving in life than is useful. An ego-driven person frequently pushes down the higher, loving aspect of him or herself and allows the ego to take primary control.
The ego-driven person usually measures his or herself from a competitive viewpoint. For this reason, ego-driven people are often in hot pursuit of being ” “stronger than,” “smarter than,” “richer than” or some other element of “better than” other people.
This is born out of the desire to protect the self but left unchecked the ego-self can become a tyrant. An out-of-control ego forgets entirely about the importance of unity, love and our ability to connect with others in meaningful and fulfilling ways.
To the ego-mind, there is no connection. There are only winners and losers, and the ego desperately wants to win.
How to check your ego when it’s out of control.
So, what do you do when you feel your competitive ego taking more control over your life than you’d like? How do you check your ego, and allow more of your love and kindness to shine through?
Here are 9 easy ways to check your ego.
Next time you find yourself caught up in the rat race of “winners and losers” try one of them out!
1. Remember, we’re not all perfect.
The ego is quick to point out other people’s mistakes and missteps. When you find yourself judging the actions of others, understand that is the ego at play. Step back into the loving aspect of yourself by remembering that you make mistakes too, and you appreciate it when people love you in spite of them.
Related: Ego, Enlightenment And Pain