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8 Things Missing When You’re Miserable In Spite Of Having It All

8 Things Missing When You’re Miserable In Spite Of Having It All

I hear it from clients, friends or strangers there’s a near constant frustration in the lives of strong, middle aged women,

“I just don’t understand why I’m so miserable. I look around and see that I pretty much have everything any woman could ask for but I still don’t feel happy.”

If you’ve built a solid career or raised healthy children (for many women it’s both) and you look at the fruits of your labor with pride but still feel empty inside you can relate to the “is this really all there is for me?” sentiment.

You may have even lamented your lack of fulfillment over the “me time” manicure you thought would help and terms like “spoiled brat,” or “ungrateful” spring to mind because how could you possibly want more when you lack for nothing.

Like most women in this position the missing purpose from your life does require more self care, just not the self care you can buy with a gift card. It’s time for Self care (with a capital S) at the fundamental level. Get ready for a paradigm shift that supports the next phase of fulfillment and purpose in your life. Your Self has been asking for a deeper, more meaningful life experience for awhile. Massages and Girl’s Nights are band-aid fixes that are, quite simply, not enough to bring you back to a sense of delight with your life.

 

Use the following inventory to find (and change) what’s missing from your beautifully depressing life.

1) Helpful Influences

There’s a lot of truth to the theory that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with (your children, as a collective, count as one).

Take a minute to reflect on what that means because it will tell you a lot about yourself and where you have room to evolve.

~ Do the people around you only call when they need something?
~ Are they guilty of the bitching habit where the only way they know to interact with you is to complain?
~ Or, when they face obstacles do they consider where they are growing as a result or at least look for a silver lining?
~ Do they gossip or support one another?
~ Are they honest or do they play games?

Do they live life with a sense of purpose or are they settled into a default that was kind of hoisted onto them because it made life convenient for others?

Try to just notice their (and ultimately your) behavior and see how each option makes you feel. If you feel buoyed by your influences then stretching toward a life of deeper purpose feels possible. If you feel weighted down, however, you’ll also notice “I can’t/won’t/shouldn’t” kinds of feelings. Can you guess which one is Self care and which one isn’t?

 

2) Healthy Boundaries (Set and Maintained)

If you’re determined to find your path toward vitality you want a major focus on the support that helps you expand your horizons.

This means, it’s time to change what you’re willing to accept in the relationships that are made comfortable by your stagnancy (or uncomfortable by your growth).

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Written by Triffany Hammond

Triffany teaches you the tools you need to get out of your own way so you can reach your highest potential.

She is a Certified Professional Life Coach and best-selling author of “F.A.I.L.* to Win: 4 Simple Principles To Get You Out Of Your Own Way.” In addition to the blog at TriffanyHammond.com you’ll find her work on Your Tango, Thought Catalog, Yahoo! Parenting, Huffington Post and even on the Tedx stage!

You’re a strong woman but you keep hitting the same “I know what to do, why won’t I do it” obstacles. Join the ranks of women who have busted through their ceiling regardless of that inner hot mess’s wretchedness. Get started with a free consult today.

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