Want to give your relationship an incredible boost? Want to melt their heart in a powerful way?
You already know how to order flowers, get a gift card to the spa, go out to a fancy dinner, or do any of the other hundreds of suggestions a search engine could offer that would please your partner. What you may not know is that there are far more powerful and effective ways to show your love and affection.
After implementing the following steps, you will be such a stellar example of an intimate partner that others will lean in close to hear your secrets. Whether you choose to share those secrets is entirely up to you.
The fact that you’ve found your way here means that you’re somebody who cares and who wants to better your relationship. So let’s get to it!
1. Power Compliments
“Being complimented is huge for me. l never really got that from my last boyfriend and sometimes it would get to the point of me asking, “Do you really love me?” I seriously couldn’t tell sometimes. So when my current boyfriend tells me how pretty/sexy/amazing I am, it’s the complete opposite. And I seriously love it.”
– Laura, 28
You might think that your partner knows how much you care about them, but that usually isn’t enough. They want to hear it. And they likely want to hear it often.
Hands down, one of the simplest and most effective ways of making your partner feel more appreciated and loved in your relationship is by giving them a genuine Power Compliment.
What is a Power Compliment?
Power Compliments take thought and reflecting. They also take the right delivery.
Ask yourself questions like: In what ways do they make my life better? How do they inspire me to be a better person? What parts of their body drive me absolutely crazy? How have I grown as a person since we started dating? What kind of positive thoughts do I have about them on a regular basis?
Take 5 minutes (right now if you’d like) to reflect on these questions.
If you’re feeling stuck, here are some examples of Power Compliments to jump start your appreciative and loving mindset. Just remember to use these compliments as a guideline. A true Power Compliment is completely unique to your relationship and is given with total sincerity.
– You literally couldn’t have been more my physical ideal if I had designed you myself.
– I don’t think I actually had a sex drive before I met you… you really bring something out in me.
– Have you done something with your… everything? You look beautiful/amazing/gorgeous/etc.
Character and Personality
– You are one of the most loving people I’ve ever met.
– You have the most attractive mind I’ve ever known.
– You are so wonderfully loyal to those whom you care about deeply.
Appreciation For What They Bring To Your Life
– I love how encouraging you are from such a genuine place.
– I appreciate how patient and nurturing you are with me.
– The generosity and kindness of spirit that you bring to my life makes every day that much more enjoyable.
Power Compliments can be delivered many unique ways: by leaving a message in their packed lunch, by emailing them a list of 50 things that you love about them, by hiding a handwritten message in the sun visor of a car. The options are only limited by your imagination.
Just remember that Power Compliments to your partner are like water and sunlight to a seed. Give them the right amount of genuine praise and you will see them flourish.
Lastly, if you are prone to giving your partner a certain kind of compliment, perhaps concerning their physical appearance, then make a mental note to verbalize your gratitude to their non-physical attributes (for example, their personality, character, values, etc). Conversely, if you primarily give their personality all of the attention, then it’s time to praise them physically and/or sexually.
Practice Power Compliments and I assure you that you will stand out as their best partner.
2. Subtle Gestures
“I get really turned on by the small things in our relationship- how he hugs me in the morning, how he smiles at me when we’re holding hands, and even how he puts away my laundry when I don’t ask him to. I don’t need to hear him say ‘I love you’ as much as I just need him to show it. ”