6 Bitter Truths Every Parent Must Accept In Life

Every Parent Must Accept In Life

What are truths that every parent must accept in life?

“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.”Kahlil Gibran

This prose from Kahlil Gibran’s prophet explains the sweet pain of parenting like no other.

Being a parent is the most beautiful and rewarding experience of one’s life. However, all-loving and successful parents have to learn a few heartbreaking lessons on their journey of parenting to let their children blossom into their highest potential.

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Your children don’t belong to you. You’re on borrowed time with them. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to build a better human being; not to build a mini version of you and all your deflated hopes and dreams. Help them become the best THEM, not the best YOU. – Neauxna

Here is a list of six difficult truths all loving parents must accept, learn and imbibe on their parenting journey:

1) Your kids are not yours to own

“Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.”

The most difficult thing for parents to practice is level-headed detachment.

It is very difficult for parents to entertain the thought that they do not own their kids; especially after all the emotional, physical, and mental labor they put in raising their little ones. But as Gibran rightly points out in the above-mentioned verse, parents are the means by which the children come into this world but they are a separate individual with their own destiny to be carved.

They are a result of life’s longing to be expressed – a force greater than parents – whatever you want to call it, God or nature and they really belong to that source and parents are just a medium to bring them into this world.

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2) You should not make your kids think or believe like you

“You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.”

Not only the kids are not yours to own but they also have a right to their own thoughts and belief systems.

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They have come to play their unique role in the world and have a storehouse of potential within them.

The parents should give them the freedom and space to navigate life on their own and form their own belief systems to enter a world of infinite possibilities in the future which the parents can’t foresee.

They are meant to live their own lives and contribute to the world in their own manner instead of being a replica of their parent’s thoughts and belief systems.

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