Unlike physical wounds, an emotional wound causes pain at a deep psychological level and is far more damaging. An emotional wound is hard, but not impossible to heal!
The human mind, without a doubt, is the most powerful tool to ever exist on Earth. At its peak, there is no comparison to what it can think and achieve. However, at its vale, you will be surprised at the amount of darkness you could find there. Turning on the light there is not really as easy as Dumbledore made it sound. Even with a full-fledged wand.
The darkness we feel is more than often a manifestation of some sort of emotional grief − or wound if you please.
We have put together a process that you may follow to help heal an emotional wound. This would probably be a good time to mention that this article is not to be mistaken for professional guidance or therapy. Look at it as a letter from a distant friend who simply cares for anybody reading it.
How to heal your emotional wound?
Step 1: Accept that there is a problem.
For any sort of defect, you cannot hope to fix it if you refuse to acknowledge it. Examine your feelings. You may use your peers’ general feelings as a guide. Find out what is unusual about your emotions than theirs − if there is any. (Do not convince yourself of having a problem if you clearly don’t have one.) This may not be a helpful approach at all times though. Use any means to identify what is wrong. Once you actively start looking for the problem, you will find it. When you finally find it, start by telling it back to yourself. Talk it out or write it down. Try using the first-person pronoun: ‘I feel…’ , ‘I think I am so-and-so because…’ , ‘I know I am hurt because …’, etc.
Step 2: Share your finds.
Sharing out your thoughts is considered healthy – both physically and psychologically. Talking to yourself is just the first step, because, it is clear that you are not capable of thinking up a solution. If you were, you’d have already found a way out of this darkness, and not so far into this article.
Choose a person. A correct person who you are comfortable with and whom you trust to listen to you without judging: it could be a parent (or even both), grandparents, sibling, cousin, best friend, any elder, a teacher, or even a counselor if needed. Whoever it might be, just talk. While talking, try not to make it sound like a sad story. You have to get over thinking of yourself as the victim. You are fighting this darkness − you are not a victim. You are a fighter right now.
Try to look for something to be thankful for in whatever you are upset about and hold on to it. It could be something as simple as − I am going to be alright. It’s not so bad, really.
Step 3: Accept, love, and nurture yourself.
Sometimes, your guilt, your hurt, your misery can make you feel negative about your body. It could get very tempting to inflict the pain of your emotions onto your body. It would be a good idea to treat yourself as three different entities: your mind (that will be you), your heart and your body.