5 Questions Every Smart Woman Should Ask Herself

5 Questions Every Smart Woman Should Ask Herself. Every Single Day!

There are certain questions every smart woman should ask herself.

If you can’t answer them, you may want to hold off on making any major decisions.

Forget the horoscopes, the fortune-tellers and even the long-winded wine-downs with friends; the real answers to your life’s most difficult questions are easier to obtain than you might think. In fact, they’re right there inside of you.

Whether you’re looking for an answer about your love life, job or that big move, all smart women should ask themselves these five very simple questions every day; if you do, you’ll never have to put your palms out again.

 

1.  Who am I?

No, you haven’t time-traveled back to philosophy class and there won’t be a graded test at the end, but think about it: when was the last time you sat down and really thought about who you are, right here and now? Not the person you were/think you are/have been told you were/want to be, but the person you are at this moment? You know, the one you live with 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

If it’s been a while, it’s time for a check-in. Whether it’s writing thoughts, feelings, and values in a nightly journal or taking quizzes, there are a number of ways to get to know and understand yourself better, and make no mistake: it’s not just self-indulgent navel-gazing, either. The more we know who we are and what we stand for, the more protective we will be and the easier it will be to identify what and who is right for us, and what and who is not.

 

2.  Are my actions reflective of who I am?

Gandhi once said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” A simple sentiment that can ignite some complex feelings in those of us who aren’t exactly feeling the serenity of synergy in our lives.

The reality is that many of us are walking around in confinement, moving through the motions dictated more by habit than of true consciousness. Perhaps that’s why many of us feel so out-of-sync with our homes, relationships, jobs, friendships, and surroundings.

When you push yourself to say “yes” instead of “no”, be bullied by fear, continue down a path that feels wrong or force yourself to smile politely when you feel insulted, you betray yourself and send those around you an inaccurate message about who you are, what you think and what your values and boundaries are. See how easy that can derail the many moments that make up a life?

 

3.  What do I really want out of this?

OK, I am the queen of starting and stopping the Paleo diet. I start it on Monday and rock the Caveman menu until, oh, about Thursday, when I can’t live without some delicious wheat-fix and before I know it, I’m pouring the wine and promising myself that come Monday, I will make a solid commitment.

After too many bread-binges and a huge physical argument with my favorite pair of jeans, I had a talk with myself (though, not in public because, well, unless you have your iPhone headphones in, that doesn’t go over so well). “Self,” I asked, “What is it that you really want out of this?” Did I want to binge on bread every few days more than I wanted to look like Jennifer Nicole Lee or did I want the body bad enough to chill on the bread a few weeks and see how I looked and felt trying something new?

I asked myself this question, not once, but every single time I had a craving. Guess what? Giving myself the choice — without judgment — was enough to keep me on-track and actually feeling good about my decision. This question can be used in all kinds of situations smart women get into from sleeping with that sexy-but-oh-so-bad-for-you-ex or choosing to go to bed and save up for that dream vacation instead of blowing up your bank account on cocktails and cabs.

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