When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.
As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back. You may not even be aware of these things that you have to stop doing to yourself.
Related: Hard times without the right support can leave you miserable and lonely. You are responsible to know if your habits are similar to truly miserable people and you must take action for a better and more fruitful life. Here are 15 Habits of Truly Miserable People.
Here are some ideas to get you started:
1. Spend no more time with the wrong people.
Life is too short to spend time with people who absorb all the happiness out of you. If someone genuinely wants you in their life, they’ll make time and room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in their life. Never ever insist yourself to someone who can’t appreciate your effort and continuously overlooks your worth. And never forget, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand right beside you when you’re at your worst that are your real friends.
2. Stop running away from your problems.
Face them – head-on. No, nobody ever said it would be easy. There is not a single person in the world that is capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve our problems. That’s just not how we’re made. In fact, we’re actually made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. That’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. In the end, this is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3. Love yourself enough to stop lying to yourself.
You can and you will lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and toughest chance we can take is to be honest to God with ourselves.
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
The most painful phase in life is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are your own individual. Yes, help others; but don’t forget to help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and follow something that matters to you, that moment is now.
5. Let go of trying to be someone you’re not.
One of the greatest challenges in life is simply being yourself in a world that’s always trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you, and that’s a fact. Don’t change so that people will like you. Be yourself and eventually the right people will love the real you.
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past.
You will never be able to start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one. It is your responsibility to keep moving forward no matter how hard your past was. What’s happened has happened, don’t hold on to it.