3 Pick-Me-Up Habits To Start Believing In Yourself

Pick-Me-Up Habits to Start Believing in Yourself

“If you can’t believe in miracles, then believe in yourself. When you want something bad enough, let that drive push you to make it happen. Sometimes you’ll run into brick walls that are put there to test you. Find a way around them and stay focused on your dream. Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
― Isabel Lopez, 

It’s fine that you’ve well-planned your whole life. But, are you believing in yourself? At the time of loss, we pause, reflect on the past months, recollect our peak moments and failings, vowing to do better next time (or year) around.

Whenever we begin something new, the anticipation of the new is infused with the sense of hope and expectation—that we will re-invent ourselves, will be able to draft a better narrative of ourselves, will finally do all the things we couldn’t get to earlier. Like reading more books, spending more quality time with family, taking better care of ourselves, enjoying life more, stressing less, eating healthier, and so on, and so on…

Read The Power of reading books, how it can influence you?

Simply put, we hope this year will finally be ‘IT’—The Time when we will turn our lives around for the better.

But we also know well that setting up Empire State goals by itself is not enough to turn things around. Willingness to make a change is a vital first step, but it’s exactly this—the first of many small moves and habits that you must build in order to make your aspirations come alive.

Believing in yourself

Goal-planning is a whole science on its own and there is lots of information out there about techniques on how to start small, improve 1% a day, track progress. All this is, of course, helpful.

But there is another side to goal achievement, the ‘soft’ side, as I call it, and it is the beliefs we hold about ourselves—that we have certain control over the forces that govern our lives and that we have the abilities to succeed (psychologists call these a Sense of Mastery and Self-Efficacy).

I wrote at length in a blog post why these are important to confidence and to the way we generally think, act, react and perceive our place in the world.

So, lacking self-beliefs and attempting to go after ambitious goals don’t quite mesh together.

If you want to give yourself a better shot at the life rejuvenation you’ve been dreaming about, you need to actually trust that you can get there.

How to start believing in yourself?

Here are my 3 easy tips on how to become your biggest cheerleader 

1. Draw from your strengths

Research shows that we learn more from our victories than from our failures. When we succeed, we feel happiness and fireworks start lighting up inside of us. Well, our brains notice too and try to remember these sensations and the behaviors that had led to the triumph, so that they could be repeated again.

Read This Impulse Quiz Reveals Your Inner Strength.

Tip 1: Make a Strengths Inventory and read it often. Start with one or two things. But the crucial part here is to put them into practice. So, try to use at least one of these strengths every day in a new way. Cultivate and develop them over time. Grow your list. Remember that focusing on what we are good at is how we move up and build confidence, not by dwelling on our foibles.

2. Who am I?

“Magic is believing in yourself, if you can do that, you can make anything happen.” ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Creative visualization, or imagining ourselves achieving the things we strive for, has been praised and practiced by many accomplished individuals—from Tony Robbins to Oprah Winfrey to Jim Carrey. What this process does is creating a paradigm shift in the way we think and behave. Seeing yourself as the whoever you want to become—a famous writer, the CEO of your company, or an influencer —makes you start seeing the world through the eyes of that person. Your actions will follow suit.

Tip 2: Every morning, before getting up, spend a minute to ask yourself: Who am I? Let the answer always be that you are already the person you want to become (for example: I am a successful business owner). Visualize how they speak, act, carry themselves. Look at the world through their eyes. Emulate the behavior. And by the way, this is a great confidence-boosting exercise as well.

3. Start a Journal

Writing Down Your Emotions Has Concrete Health Benefits
3 Things You Need To Start Believing in Yourself

Journaling is not a new kid on the block. Its benefits have been well-evidenced—as a stress reliever, a therapeutic aid, or as a way to simply reflect on our days. It’s also a self-enhancement technique.

I keep a daily diary where I write 3 things at the end of each day—1 thing that I learned that day; 1 thing that went well; 1 thing that could use improvement (and what type exactly). What these three things do is to boost your self-awareness and self-esteem.

Read Writing as Meditation: How to Enter the Flow State Through Journaling

Learning new things creates competence, which leads to higher confidence. Focusing on success goes back to the first point above about leaning in on your strengths. And the thing that needs improvement is simply a reflection of how you can do things better the next time around.

Tip 3: Write away. Do it every night. A post-mortem of the day helps to track progress, to spot perspectives and opportunities and is a valuable self-improvement tool. Taking a daily pulse on how you are doing will boost your self-respect too—with the realization that you are doing something to better yourself.

In the end, believing in your stars—your abilities, skills, strengths, mojo—is the absolute first step in any undertaking.

Because if you don’t have the confidence that you deserve your dreams and that you can actually reach them, then why bother trying at all, right?

Change is possible, trust me.

If you could change one thing about yourself
3 Things You Need To Start Believing in Yourself

A few years ago, I wouldn’t even dare to believe that I can be at the place I am now, but in retrospect, fear was only living in my mind—putting me down, talking me out of my aspirations.

Read Positive Changes You Experience When You Actually Start Believing In Yourself

You can truly be unstoppable. Just put some trust in yourself first.

That’s the not-so-secret sauce to achieving your goals. See? Easy.

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Written by Evelyn Marinoff
Originally appeared in Evelyn Marinoff
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    Charlotte S

    Hi. This blog was extremely helpful me. I always read and heard about the importance of believing in yourself, but you touched based on the ‘how’ which is enlightening. Thank you.

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