Do you ever wonder if you could be an introvert?
To think oneself as an introvert is often associated with some negative ideas. We often assume that introverts are people who hate other people or people who only have poor social skills. But in actuality, introversion is an aspect of a person’s personality which transcends beyond just skills and personal choice.
The terms “introvert” and “extravert” (note the correct spelling with a rather than o) were originally introduced by Swiss psychiatrist C.G. Jung in his now classic text Psychological Types (1921).
Each person seems to be energized more by either the external world (extraversion) or the internal world (introversion).
Introversion or extraversion is a trait a person possesses. It is not acquired. But to put a person exclusively in the distinct compartments of introversion or extraversion is limiting to the possibilities of exploring oneself beyond a tag.
Introverts make up an estimated 25 to 40 percent of the population. Despite the growing conversation around Introverts, there are still many misconceptions about this personality type.
Introverts are focused more on internal thoughts, feelings and moods rather than seeking out external stimulation. They direct their libidinal force towards themselves, their inner self and their convictions rather than towards their external surroundings.
Still not sure if you are an introvert or not?
If you are wondering whether or not you are an introvert, these 17 signs will help you put your doubt to rest.
17 Signs You Are An Introvert:
1. You Don’t Enjoy Small Talk
Introverts hate small talks unless inevitable. You prefer substantial conversations that yields some useful discussions. You are a deep thinker. So, topics which are grave evokes your interest. You thrive on grim conversations about metaphysics, philosophy of life, ideas, theories and big goals.
2.You are more of a texter than a talker
Introverts are not the best at talking over the phone. You are not good at starting or continuing a conversation over the phone. It freaks you out to literally engage in a proper conversation over the phone where you are being unable to observe the other person’s expressions.
You would rather just wait back to reply with a thoughtful message. But at times you hate the phone because it’s intrusive and distracting.
However, when it comes to the close people in your life (only the few chosen ones), you can talk for hours over the phone with them, but only rarely.
3. You Find Crowds Stressful
You prefer one-on-one time, where it’s more intimate. You feel all drained by the overflowing social energy. So at social gatherings you hurry through a few small talks and get back to your comfortable space to recharge your energies. Socializing is like a panic attack for you because you know you suck at it.
4. You’re Not Asocial; You’re Selectively Social
You find it difficult to meet people you prefer and feel comfortable with. It takes you a little while to warm up to someone.
When you feel a connection with someone you open up to them and show interest in knowing them further.
5. You Enjoy Hanging Out Occasionally In Small Doses With People Who Really Matter
Once in a while, you prefer going out with a group of people, only with whom you are very comfortable. It could be a party, a networking event, or a huge concert. Socializing is fun and acceptable to you when in small doses.
6. You Are Extremely Observant and Mindful of Your Surroundings
Introverts are very sensitive to their surroundings. You can easily read other people’s facial expressions and body languages.
You have a potential for mindful observation of the surrounding. You can easily absorb strings of stimuli through your senses. You enjoy getting to know people at a deeper level.
7. You open up only to those who you are comfortable with
Introverts are extremely careful in choosing who they allow to see their inner self. You are cautious because you know opening up to someone takes a lot of mental energy which you only agree to spend on people worthy of your time and efforts.
You carefully choose the people you can be comfortable with. You are also very quick in shutting people out of your life if they threaten your privacy.