Unknowingly, you end up doing many things that are bad for your soul, and these are the things you should stop doing to yourself if you want to be happy.
There are lots of people in this world, who make themselves go through a lot of pain because they think that they deserve it. The only things they think about are negative things about themselves. This leads them to turn into bitter and resentful people who don’t understand or recognize even an iota of happiness or positivity.
We are the center of our own personal universe. The thoughts we think, the words we speak, the beliefs we hold and the things we do, they all set the tone for how people and life, in general, will treat us. As long as we put ourselves down, the world will put us down too. But, the moment we start loving ourselves and treat ourselves with kindness, it will reflect on other people too.
Here Are 15 Things You Should Stop Doing To Yourself And Treat Yourself More Kindly
1. Stop putting your happiness on hold.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination, and if you can’t be happy in the present, chances are that you will never be happy in the future. Happiness is something you should always focus on and appreciate, because the truth is, it is incredibly rare to come across. So, the moment you feel even a little bit of happiness in your heart, grab it with both your hands and savor it.
And remember that time waits for no one. You are the one who is responsible for your own happiness, and only you will be able to make yourself happy. Don’t wait for something to happen so that you can make yourself feel that happiness.
2. Stop polluting yourself with negative thoughts.
The quality of your life is directly related to the quality of your thoughts. If you want your life to feel better, to get better, and to look better, you have to stop feeding yourself with all kinds of toxic, self-defeating and negative thoughts.
3. Stop arguing for your limitations.
There are no limits to what you can be and what you can achieve in life. You are no less than anyone out there, and never let anybody make you feel like that. If you constantly take a step back because you believe that you have a lot of limitations, then you will never be able to reach your full potential.
4. Stop telling yourself that you’re not ENOUGH.
Your mind is a powerful place, and how it will treat you depends on how you treat it. If you constantly feed it negative and self-deprecating thoughts, it will steadily make you believe that all of it is actually true.
If you constantly tell yourself that you are not good enough or you can never be good enough as the others, then that is what you will believe for the rest of your life. You will only attract people who are bad for your mental health, and who will take advantage of you. Tell yourself that you are worthy, you are good enough, you can do anything and you can achieve anything in life, and see how your life changes.
5. Stop hanging out with the wrong kind of people.
Surrounding yourself with all kinds of toxic and negative people and people who are always complaining without putting an effort to better themselves will slowly take a toll on your mental health. And without you even knowing it, you will start to believe the same things that they believe, and behave in the same way that they behave.
6. Stop waiting for your life to begin.
This moment right here is your life. And if you choose to waste this moment by waiting for life to begin, then you will waste your whole life waiting. This may sound intimidating, but you need to start your own life. You need to take matters into your own hands and make it happen.
All those dreams and aspirations you have, you will have to fulfill all of them by yourself. Unless you choose to start your life, it can never truly begin.
7. Stop complaining all the time.
Complaining is one of the most futile human activities to exist. Complaining about something is never going to change it; you have to do something. And if you can’t change it, change the way you look at it. Change your perception, alter your attitude, but stop complaining. Complaining never makes anything better, rather it makes an already negative situation a lot worse.
8. Stop comparing yourself with others.
Contrary to what other people make you believe, your life’s mission is not to work towards being better than the rest. You need to work towards being better than your old self. You need to be better today than you were yesterday.
Instead of concentrating on what other people are doing, you need to focus on yourself and think about what you can do to improve yourself and reach new heights. Channel all your energy in being the best version of yourself.
9. Stop obsessing over the past.
The past is gone and there is nothing you can do to change it. Thinking about it all the time and obsessing about what happened years ago, will make you go crazy. Don’t waste your precious time and energy doing that.
Every day, you get a brand-new chance of making your life better and making yourself better. So, what is the point of staying stuck in the past, which no amount of regret can change?
10. Stop looking for love where there is none.
Stop searching for love where there is none for you. Life is too short to waste on people who do not appreciate you enough and don’t appreciate your presence. Wait for those people who will love you for who you are, and not for who they want you to be.
Love is all around you, and if you wait and have faith in your destiny, you will find it very soon. Just hold on, the right person is just around the corner.
Are you looking for love in places, where there isn’t any? Read How to Love Yourself More (Even When Others DON’T)
11. Stop worrying all the time.
Worrying all the time is not going to make life easier or fair. The hard truth is life is harsh, it is unfair and you never know what kind of a curveball it might throw your way. So, what is the point in worrying about something you have absolutely no control over?
Seize the day, and make the most of your time in this world. Give your best and that is all that matters at the end of the day. You only get one life, and there are no do-overs when it comes to that. Live a life that is not only worthwhile but a happy and memorable one!
12. Stop being unappreciative.
Those who are ungrateful and unappreciative of what they have, they end up losing all those things at some point. And when those gifts will be taken away from them, then they will realize how much they had to be grateful for.
You have so much to be grateful for in this world. And the more you get into the habit of expressing your gratitude for the life you have and for the many wonderful things that are there in your life, the more you will have to be happy and thankful about.
13. Stop expecting that everyone will like you.
You may not like to hear this, but no matter how hard you try, not everyone is going to like you. If you want the world to respect you and like you, stop running after other’s approval and attention. Live your life in such a way that people are intrigued to know about you as a person.
Focus on what you are passionate about and work hard on that, and you will see that in no time, people are coming to you to know more about you.
14. Stop drowning yourself in self-doubt.
You are who you are, and nothing can change that. Trust yourself, your inner power, your abilities, your wisdom and most importantly, trust that you are are a good soul. Every human being is flawed and there is nothing wrong with that. So, stop beating yourself up because you are not “flawless”.
15. Stop looking outside for your self-worth.
Your self-worth depends on what you think about yourself and how you think yourself. Outsiders can never make you feel happy and strong unless you make yourself feel like that. Your self-worth does not depend on others; it solely depends on you.
Love yourself enough, so that you don’t have to go looking for something that is already inside you, in abundance. As long as you love yourself and everything about yourself, nothing can phase you or hurt you.
All these things might be challenging for you to do in your life, and that’s okay. Take one step at a time, and learn to treat yourself better. Loving yourself is a long journey, but not an impossible one. Remember, that you got this.
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Source – Purposefairy.com