Depression is one of the most common mental health disorders in children and adolescents but often goes undetected and undiagnosed. Those with concealed depression put up a happy front and hide the fact they are fighting with inner demons. Symptoms of mental illness are not clearly visible in such people. But, there are some common habits of people with concealed depression.
But, before discussing that you must know that hidden description is the outcome of cultures that highly supports the idea of hiding feelings of sadness and inadequacy. And displaying emotional trauma is often frowned upon and a sort of cultural taboo.
On top of that social media is ruling our life to an extent that we don’t think beyond virtual relationships. Without talking to your friends face-to-face, hugging them tightly or looking into their eyes, it’s tough to decode what they are going through. Cool texting language with exciting emojis, can help a person with depression hide all the pain and suffering. A smiley emoji doesn’t mean the person is really laughing out loud and having a happening life.
If we don’t come out of tech-driven connections, we will stop being able to understand each other. And those who are depressed don’t share their mental state with even their closest of companions. Only if you invest time in understanding people, they will reveal their scars and wounds to you. Else, in the long run the world will become a dark place to live.
Here are 13 habits of people With concealed depression:
1. They may intentionally make efforts to appear happy.
It is a misconception that all the depressed people have a dreary personality. The social construction of depression deviates from the medical notion of illness. Moreover, the stigma associated with depression has compelled people living with depression to pretend like everything’s okay and they have a happening life.
Depression is characterized by a range of symptoms and is not just about feeling low or sad. So, those who are depressed tend to alter their facial expressions or mood and may come across as most “happy” people that you know. They try hard to flaunt an optimistic attitude even when they are broken and feeling hopeless about life.
2. They may have abandonment issues.
Nothing can be more painful than your loved one walking out of your life. But, it hurts a person with depression more than the normal person. They are scarred for life and tend to bottle up emotions. Over time they become more and more secretive out of fear of the recession of those they love.
They blame themselves and feel guilty of things not done and assume that they are terrible enough for someone they love to handle. They withdraw themselves and make efforts to not be a burden for those closest to them.
3. They can be pros at “cover-up” stories.
People with concealed depression come up with wonderful excuses for not attending a party last night, skipping biology classes, cuts on their wrists, not attending calls or replying to messages and so on – they can cook stories for anything.
They avoid attention considering the stereotypes and myths about depression that people have. Depression hampers your work, relationships as well as the normalcy of daily lives. Expressing your pain to people and giving them a chance to put you down is a big NO. Hiding their state of mind and things they are going through seems to be a better option for them.
4. They may have strange sleeping and eating habits.
People with depression don’t open up themselves and make muted cries for help. They feel helpless, which has a profound impact on their sleeping and eating habits. They either sleep too much or too less. Either they lose appetite or indulge in binge-eating.
Depression creates an extreme lack of control, but sleep and diet are two easiest options for depressed people to escape and avoid their feelings.