10 Rules Of No Contact With A Narcissist

Rules No Contact With Narcissist

Anyway, my No Contact record of eight months and counting is something I am very proud of and makes me feel strong. Seeing him smiling on a future-faking trip? Or with his children that I loved with my whole heart? Not at all helpful to me as I recover from the trauma of being with someone disordered in this way.

Related: Narcissists, No Contact and the Spaghetti Test

I would have thrived post-narcissistic abuse in the Pride and Prejudice era. With letter writing and brooding whilst looking out my window onto the lovely English countryside. The idea that when something was done, it was done. And that you had space and time to grieve and heal. Living in a time where you can check up on the narcissist via Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat anytime and anywhere is tempting but counterproductive to the healing process.

The bottom line to No Contact is caring enough about yourself to heal fully from the trauma created intentionally by the narcissist. You deserve that. Quite honestly, he’d love knowing you were looking for him. I urge you to not give him that hit of narcissistic supply. Okay, true, he won’t know that you aren’t peeking. But YOU know that you aren’t. That’s what is important.

Yes, Virginia, there are monsters in this world. Sadly, they look an awful lot like that charming man who sold you a beautiful dream and left you with a nightmare. Stay strong; stay No Contact. It’s a gift that will allow you to regain control of your life. That girl you once were?  She’s still inside of you and she is going to do amazing things. She will feel strong again. And you will absolutely love it again. I don’t always know much, but I promise you that.

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Jennifer runs a small business in the Midwest. She graduated from the University of Iowa with a degree in French Literature and Education. She adores her two nearly college-aged children and will always say yes to an adventure. Her passion is educating others on domestic violence. You can find her at www.yellownovember.com.View Author posts