Going No Contact with a narcissist is probably one of the toughest obstacles you will face when ending the toxic relationship. And sticking with it is the biggest step you will take to heal from narcissistic abuse.
As you beam with genuine confidence and move away from your codependency with the narcissist, something crazy might happen. You might find a way to leave.
Nothing hurts a narcissist more than ignoring them. There is no greater narcissistic injury than people turning back on them.
If you want to let go of your ex, you will have to go no contact. If you can’t do it, you will have no chance of getting past the pain and moving on.
If you have ever lost somebody, you will probably run into these people again in your lifetime, and if you do, learn to appreciate that these people, in a sense, think like you.
How to starve a narcissist:
– No emotions.
– No responses.
– No interactions,
– No contact.
When he found out I’d been abused in silence right under his unsuspecting nose, a dear friend asked me, in shock: “But why didn’t you say anything? Why didn’t you ask for help?” And, in that moment, I couldn’t find an answer.
Narcissist hoovering usually happens after an episode of abuse. Or, when you are threatening to leave, or have recently left an abusive relationship.
Chasing, while in a relationship, is something that needs to become a thing of the past as well. In dysfunctional relationships you often see one partner blowing hot and cold and the other writhing in agony, begging for their return.