Courting your emotions is about being attentive to them, listening to them, honoring them, and letting them melt into your heart – just as you would with a lover.
Your anxiety is anxious about itself. Your anguish is anguished with itself. Your hatred is hateful towards itself. Your loneliness feels lonely with itself. The only way you can liberate yourself from your emotional suffering is by opening your heart to all of these emotions unconditionally.
Every painful, tortuous feeling must be given rest in your heart. Every disturbing sensation must be accepted exactly as it is, without you wanting it to change. Every one of your emotions must be met, felt with compassion, and allowed safe passage in your heart.
Love is the energy of the heart, and it is the only doorway through which your painful emotions can pass. When you try to “fix” these emotions, you keep them stranded in the body. You are essentially telling whatever painful emotion you’re experiencing, “You’re not good enough, I don’t like you, I want to get rid of you.” What message does this send to your emotions? What message does this send to yourself?
Your emotional anguish craves for love, for true unconditional love. Your pain thirsts for comfort, solace, and nurturing. Instead of sending your pain the message that you hate it, you need to treat it as a mother, father, friend, or lover would. Open your arms to this pain, allow compassion to clothe it, and it will melt through the doorway in your heart and be released.
Your heart has its own intelligence. This has even been proven scientifically by the Heartmath Institute. The intelligence of your heart knows how to overcome fear. The intelligence of your heart is love, and love embraces the darkest and dimmest emotions you have.
This love I speak of isn’t conditional – it doesn’t expect or want anything from your emotions. All it desires is to express its overflowing abundance of empathy, kindness, and benevolence. All the heart desires is to show love.
In order to show love, you need to trust in the wisdom of your heart. You need to be willing to open to and feel the pain you have been trying to fix. Only then can love emerge as your inner mother, father, friend or lover.
Love is not only softness. Love is not a “woo-woo” new age cliche. Love is ruthless acceptance, fierce passion, and intense openness. Love will take your pain in its arms and cherish it with the white fire love of a mother towards its newborn child. Love will cradle and clothe your pain, and listen to its dying words with unsurpassable devotion and fervor.
The moment you feel this love throb in your chest, in your soul, is the moment you have found the doorway to your pain’s liberation.
Originally appeared on LONERWOLF
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