When love breaks our heart it gives you the worst kind of pain. It is natural to feel stabbing pain when we find something for which we had gambled everything was a bet that we could have never won. We had placed all our hopes in it, yet it was something which was never meant to fulfill them.
And when we see our heart shattered into millions of pieces, we can’t help but wonder what went so immensely wrong.
It’s human nature to make mistakes and we can go wrong in love too.
That’s simply because we are continuously evolving. Every experience in our lives makes us better judge of people and situations. We make wrong choices from our need to learn from our bad experiences that follow from such choices.
We need these lessons to make the ultimate right decisions.
When life goes easy, it offers no learning experiences. The daily life where everything is right has nothing to teach us. We learn the true lessons of life when we make mistakes and when these mistakes fill us with regret we start introspecting.
However, if you are one of those who have not been able to know who they are, yet, or how they want to give and receive love, making wrong choices can hardly be called a mistake. But, no matter how naïve we have been, sometimes we encounter such love that we want to go back in time and just undo it. We don’t want it to be a part of our history because we don’t want to remember the hurt, the grief, the pain it gave us.
We can’t change how it was with what we had wanted it to be. We have to accept the fact that we needed this love to experience heart break.
Speaking the truth, the bitter experience we had was nothing but the awakening that our souls needed. It only pushed us closer to the real love which is meant just for us.
Heartbreak is essential, otherwise it wouldn’t reveal to us which way we adopt for recovery.
The most common mistake we make is a relationship that should have been over as soon as it started or we should have parted ways long before we actually did. We should have quit much before the entire thing fell apart.
We stuck to it not because it would have eventually turned out to be the love we had always wanted it to be, but, to receive our share of truth that taught us what love actually is.
Staying in a relationship is our choice. We can continue to be in a relationship that asks us to compromise constantly with everything we believe in and everything we want in a relationship. But, even if we make these compromises in every relationship we have, never do they turn out to be what we want them to be.
It’s because they have to be that way.
As with all mistakes, the end result of wrong decisions is always bitter and often catastrophic. They are meant to make us question ourselves and whatever notions we had about love.
Unless we are shaken to the core, we don’t open our eyes to reality or question ourselves what is it after all that led to such a disaster? To understand the truth, we have to take a dive into our inner selves and be strong enough to listen and accept what our heart knows already.
This is the process of healing that helps us realize this is not the end. We had tried to love someone. Even though it failed, there’s nothing we have lost. We can walk ahead with our dignity and faith intact because the best thing is yet to happen.
We haven’t met the love of our life. And when we meet that love, we will be too happy that we made those mistakes in the past.
There won’t be extreme highs and lows, there won’t be daily compromises, there won’t be constant battle to make things work. Unfulfilled needs and hopelessness won’t have any place in this love. It would be a true eye-opener to the fact where our previous relationships failed.
All the events in the past have only worked to lead us to this person who has been created only for us. Somehow through the imperfections of life, things end up being perfect for us.