7 Ways Your Heartbreak Makes You Wiser

your heartbreak makes you wiser

The biggest lesson that you learn from heartbreak is that healthy relationships are built on healthy boundaries and poor boundaries give the other person the license to inadvertently manipulate you and take you for granted. You also learn to maintain individual identities and preferences in future relationships to come.

Khalil Gibran in his book, ‘The prophet’ had expressed it aptly “Let there be spaces in your togetherness, and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.”

Everyone has a heartbreak that changed them.
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4) You learn that it’s not the end of the world.

Many people tend to engage in self-doubt followed by a breakup. “Why me?”, “Was I not worth it?”, “I will never be able to get over this breakup.” “I deserve this.” are a few things you tell yourself that reflects how it has affected your self-esteem.

A broken heart gives you the perfect opportunity to reassess your life, your strengths and weaknesses, your dreams, your goals, your priorities and give you the strength to start afresh. While venturing for productive catharsis you often explore your creative sides. Spending time with oneself, exploring your potentials, starting new projects, cultivating new ideas, ultimately lead you to become the highest versions of yourself.

What is a better motivation than a broken heart?

You also learn that your relationship is a part of your life and even though heartbreaks are pretty nasty, they don’t mean the end of the world for you. We get lost in love. And heartbreaks help us find ourselves.

Related: How You Know You Have Recovered From Heartbreak

5) It teaches you empathy.

Once you start working on healing yourself from the pain of a breakup, you try to rationally conceptualize what might have gone wrong in the relationship. This helps you to learn to consider the other person’s perspective instead of having an unhealthy focus on the self. The reason pain and suffering make one wiser are because they teach us to be generous with others.

Once you have faced a loss, crisis, or a tragic incident, you know how it feels and you can empathize with someone else going through a similar situation and inspire them to believe in themselves in times of hardship.

This makes you wiser, humble, compassionate and brave.

6) You learn that it is better to be alone than being with the wrong person.

When two people are interconnected with one another, their lives are bound in several intimate ways. They might have shared the same physical space and have created lasting memories together that make it difficult for one to instantly accept the other person’s absence. This is when we feel that the loneliness will engulf us and hold us back from moving on.

Heartbreaks give you a perfect opportunity to get to know yourself better. Solitude can be comforting too, as it helps clear the clutter in your mind and give way for productive ideas to flourish. In the process, you learn to become your own best friend and start enjoying your own company which can be very rejuvenating for the self.

As Osho puts it “There is a difference between loneliness and aloneness. Loneliness means that you miss the presence of the other. To be alone means that being by oneself is enough. Loneliness is painful but there is bliss in being alone.”

7) You learn that your happiness does not depend on other people.

Initially, heartbreaks can feel like the end of the world because you are so habituated with the person’s presence in your life. Accepting the fact that the person, who you trusted, can break your heart is difficult. You feel helpless and scared to face the world alone.

If we define our contentment with what other people do for us or how other people treat us, we are allowing them control over us. How we attach meaning to the actions of others also makes a lot of difference. Some actions that do not count as hurtful to your partner may cause pain to you.

Related: Your Body During a Breakup: 10 Scientific Effects Heartbreak Has On The Body

Happiness doesn’t reside outside oneself; it is within oneself, through acceptance and rational understanding of the situation, that peace can be attained. Happiness is subjective and is not dependent on the actions or words of others, but on how you choose to perceive a situation and respond to it. Only you are in control of your actions.

“Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.” – J.K.Rowling

Reference: Brain regions associated with psychological pain: Implications for a neural network and its relationship to physical pain
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