The Imposter Syndrome

The Imposter Syndrome

Are you trapped in the illusion of imposter syndrome? 

Do you stay later at the office than the rest of your team, even past the point of completing your daily necessary errands?

Do you feel like you have to be 100% perfect at 100% of the time?

Do you often feel that you are not really entitled the success you had?

Depending on your personality, background and circumstances you might have different thoughts related to you successes and achievements; some to the point where you wait for your friends and family members to “find out” that you are a fraud.

This psychological phenomenon, known as imposter syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome, or the impostor experience), reflects a belief that you’re an inadequate and incompetent failure despite evidence that indicates you’re skilled and quite successful. (1)

An individual with imposter syndrome doubts his or her accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

“When I do something well and have success, I feel like it’s a fluke.”

“I believe my success is sheer out of luck.”

“I walk around feeling like a fraud. I don’t trust that I’m honestly capable of doing the things that I do.”

“I have this nagging sense that I’m going to be found out, like I’m a fake.”

It is not an actual mental disorder. The term was coined by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978 when they found that despite having adequate external evidence of accomplishments, people with imposter syndrome remained convinced that they don’t deserve the success they have. (2)

Early research from the psychologists’ work focused on high-achieving women, the syndrome has actually been found to impact men and women in roughly equal numbers. 

A fluke, a Fraud and Imposter Syndrome

Some of us have surely had this insidious and demoralizing way of walking through the world, but few people know how it forms and what to do about it. Moving through life feeling like people are going to find out that one is a fraud sure creates a hot mess in the mind. It is like living the life of a con man, running away from nothing.

It creates such chronic anxiety and doubt in oneself, that it is important to unravel the mystery around the phenomenon.

These are the common personality traits of those who suffer from the imposter syndrome:

  • High sensitivity
  • High achievement needs
  • Perfectionism
  • Self -doubt
  • Difficulty in making decisions
  • Anxious
  • Having obsessive compulsive traits
  • Fear of failure

Sounds familiar?

These people are not accepting of the positive attributes and abilities they possess and hence dismiss others’ belief that they are competent, genius, talented, better and more intelligent than they actually are. This is not because they are trying to be humble with others regarding their qualities but they firmly believe that they are not up to the mark. They undervalue their abilities and this ultimately leads to lack of self-trust.

The false sense of self these people carry with themselves, constantly drag them down the rabbit hole of anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and self-doubt.

Sadly, a person is not born with deep self-doubt and self-hatred. During the developmental phase, when a child forms his/her idea about his own self, about the world and about how the world sees him/her, this self-doubt is introduced.

The self-doubt introduced during the formative years is dependent on the relationship the child shared with the primary care givers. In a lot of instances, the parents of these people takes an extremely critical, highly demanding and autocratic approach to parenting. The message, these people absorbed from a very young age was this: Your self-worth is dependent on how perfectly you achieve, unless and until you achieve according to other’s demands, you are not valued.

And if you succeed in the external world, you will be happy. This message may not have even come directly from parents compared to how much it comes from the community at large. The message is everywhere, and if you were a highly sensitive person who aimed to please, you would have absorbed it from a variety of sources.

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