How To Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: 5 Effective Strategies

Here are 5 effective strategies to stop comparing yourself to others.

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Every now and then you find yourself going through a phase where you get sucked into a bad habit of comparing yourself to others.

You’ll look at their jobs, careers, their fancy Instagram posts and their celebratory success posts on facebook. You catch yourself thinking, “Why am I not doing that?” – and then quickly remember that you don’t even want to do what they’re doing.


It’s easy to do when everywhere you look people are telling you about their latest success or exciting adventure. It’s like you’re constantly being teased to do something else!

Due to social media these get even worse. People posting about things they’re proud of or happy about – it’s there every right to share! But you as the audience have to remind yourself to approach these posts with a bit of perspective. You have to stop comparing yourself to others and start focusing on your own path.

The trick is to become more aware of when you’re doing these comparisons – and acknowledging them. Suppressing them or beating yourself up for making comparisons will only make it worse.

Once you’ve acknowledged that this is something that you’re doing, it’s time to play with these five strategies.

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How To Stop Comparing Yourself to Others: 5 Effective Strategies

1. Connect with your real self – and love it.

Connect with yourself and love yourself – that’s when the magic happens. You are exactly who you are meant to be. You are perfect and amazing just the way you are. No one on this planet has ever been exactly like you, and no one in the future will ever be exactly like you.

You are completely unique just as you are, and your beliefs, abilities, and passions are there to form the unique you. Don’t let anyone else make you think otherwise. Don’t get tempted by who other people are, or how you think you’d like to be more like them. Focus on who you are, because no one in the entire world can do a better job of being you than you.


2. Say to yourself, “I am exactly where I am meant to be” – and believe it.

The universe knows exactly what you can handle and your intuition is subconsciously telling you that too – so trust that. Don’t think about where you aren’t yet or what you haven’t achieved yet. Become mindful of where you are right now and appreciate every bit of it.


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Susanna Halonen
Susanna, also known as The Happyologist, is an author, philosopher and keynote speaker. She is on a mission to help you to connect to your inner truth so you can live it fully and boldly. She mixes the science of positive psychology, life coaching, philosophy, and cultural insights to help you to kill your self-doubt, embrace positive thinking, and build a lifestyle you love. She is the author of Happiness is Here and Screw Finding Your Passion  She is also a published researcher, a TEDx speaker, an online columnist, and a regular commentator in the media from the BBC to The Huffington Post and more. You can find out more about her at
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