“A poor life this is if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.”
– William Henry Davies
We are so engrossed in our lives that we “see” nothing. Our fast-paced lifestyle has made us insanely competitive and mechanical. Your soulmate could board the same bus with you every day or try to talk to you at the cafe, but you’d be busy checking emails on your phone! Stop living in an alternate universe and start noticing.
“What we need to learn is always there before us, we just have to look around us with respect & attention to discover.”
You may have phases when you are searching for love or decidedly neglecting it. Here are certain signs for you to know if someone is genuinely interested in you.
1) The person makes sure you get what you like
So imagine this: someone orders your usual dishes for you without asking, you’ll feel great right? It could be as simple as getting you the latest book you wished for or making a favorite playlist if someone pays attention it means you matter to them. The person values your opinions and choices. They will try to make you smile by doing small things you love, like placing a flower vase on your desk or get access to your favorite fan-fiction. All this would make you feel accepted.
2) The person showers compliments on you all the time
Everyone loves flattery, isn’t it? When someone compliments you always and everywhere – social-media, face to face, post-it-notes, you are bound to feel good. Even better if the person pays attention to minute mundane details like the way you tie your hair or your ringtone, these show that the person is attracted towards you. To them “there is none like you” and they want to express it. Romancing with words can be very charming if done the right way. You may give the person a chance because of the sheer skill of putting feelings into words.
3) Body language can never lie
Did you notice how your fingers tremble during the exams or how you tap your feet while sitting? This shows your nervousness and boredom. Similarly, if a person runs their fingers through your hair, have a sheepish smile plastered on their face or holds hands, it all speaks of attraction. Dr. Albert Scheflen, the author of Body Language and the Social Order, discovered certain behavioral changes that take place in the company of someone of the opposite sex. When we wish to impress someone, we maintain good posture, we are happy and it reflects in our smile, we take care to dress up for that special person and exude confidence. We want the person to take notice and feel drawn towards us. We need assurance that they like us.