Love can be a bittersweet feeling sometimes; when the person you love reciprocates your love, the happiness you feel is unparalleled. But, in case there are chances they might not, then the feeling is not that positive, is it? But the good news is that you can use psychology and a few useful strategies to make someone fall in love with you!
Do you believe that love can’t be controlled?
Do you believe that if a person doesn’t love you from the outset, there’s no chance?
Do you believe that it’s impossible to make a person fall madly deeply in love with you?
If you’ve answered yes, it’s also highly likely you believe in chance and fate. Its ok, a lot of people do! The majority of people are under the impression that love is something that can’t be changed, and they also believe it’s something that can’t be manipulated.
I guess I was also guilty of this once.
But extensive research carried out over the years has proved that you can indeed control love. Yes, you can make someone fall in love with you. And it can all be done through the power of the mind. It’s all a matter of learning how to use your mind correctly.
You see, love is no different to other psychological emotions that you might experience on a day-to-day basis such as:
• Fear • Stress • Jealousy • Self-pity • Anxiety
The above emotions can be controlled, and as love falls under the category of “psychological emotions,” it can also be controlled. Controlling love as an emotion is just as easy as controlling fear, excitement or stress, etc. The problem lies in what we’ve been taught to believe. Over the years, we’ve been conditioned to believe that love is something that “just happens.” It all depends on “fate.”
The reality, however, is far different. With the right knowledge, you can use the psychology of love to make him or her fall in love with you and never look back. Now, nothing’s foolproof, which means this won’t work 100% all the time, but you’ll improve your chances dramatically. If you could triple your chances of making someone genuinely fall in love with you, why wouldn’t you try?
How we fall in love and the psychology behind it
Before even thinking about going down the road of learning how to make a person fall madly in love with you, you need to take a look at the psychological aspect of it, and no, it has nothing to do with magic potions and midnight under the moon chanting sessions.
Without even realizing it, you and everyone else you know has a checklist stored in the back of your mind. On this list, there are set criteria, criteria that your potential love interest must meet before you will be able to fall in love with them. Psychologists call this list a ‘Lovemap.’
If someone doesn’t match one or more of the points in this list, they’re automatically disqualified as a potential love partner and they’re likely to just remain your friend, this is why you might fall in love with one person while others will just be your “friends.” This is what makes people fall in love.
Of course, each person’s checklist is different and unique. The items on your list depend on your:
• Values • Beliefs • Past experiences • Background • Previous relationships
This is also the reason why your friend might fall in love with a man that you consider ordinary and nothing special. This man matches her own unique ‘Lovemap,’ not yours. Calculating matches to see if a person lives up to our checklist is not a conscious action on our part, it’s done subconsciously, without thinking about it. The mind does it all on its own. Just like your mind is telling your heart to beat as your reading this page …even though you weren’t consciously aware of it. This is why it’s possible to fall in love with a person and have no idea why you fell in love with them in the first place. Your subconscious is responsible.
This is why love is such a “mysterious phenomenon” and many people put it all down to their own personal destiny. But in reality, it has nothing to do with fate, it was all related to your subconscious, which was quietly figuring out whether the person matches your checklist or not. The truth of the matter is that if you’re able to grow more aware of your subconscious mind’s specific criteria, you’ll be able to quickly determine why you fall for some people and not for others.
Below is an example of Jamie’s checklist. Jamie is a 26-year-old man with a couple of serious girlfriends behind him. He’s been out of the university for 2 years and works in London. He’s tired of dating women on and off and is looking for a more serious partner.