Being a parent is hard, and I can say that with experience, for sure. Parenting becomes so hard because most of us parents fail to understand the basic psychological needs of our children. Understanding a child’s behavior is as important as parenting itself.
Unless you don’t understand how your child thinks and understand the reasons why he/she behaves in a particular way; I’m pretty sure you will not be able to help them properly.
According to research, most of our problems are connected to our childhood, which was not nurturing enough for us. Hence, these parenting mistakes which our parents made are eventually going to catch up with us. Consider childhood and adulthood working in complete synergy. You can not live without having echos from your childhood.
The days and experiences your child is gaining right now are going to shape his future. So it is essential that parents understand that they need to be extra careful with their kids during their early ages.
Understanding The Psychology Behind A Child’s Behavior
1. When your child is always irritated
Such situations can be very alarming for parents. Having a child who is always irritated by something is not a good sign. You can always consult a doctor about the situation but it is advised to handle the situation on your own at the start.
Try to figure out patterns in your child’s behavior. There must be something specific that is making him irritated. You can always try to talk to your child but make sure you are very careful with your words.
Kids usually throw such tantrums when something is bothering them at school or someone is posing threat to them and they can’t talk about it. Make sure your child is protected and close to you regarding such matters.
2. When your child is always rambling about his problems
Often kids do this, they keep rambling about their problems. This only has one simple solution. You need to start paying more attention to your child. It is similar to us, as we usually ramble on our partner when we need attention.
Hence, if your child is always disturbed about something, and is always complaining about something; don’t ignore him. Rather, it is best to help him out and give him/her more exposure while doing this. We never know what our child is trying to tell us until we witness it firsthand so don’t ignore his rambles.
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3. When your child is never attentive in class
I should not only limit this trait to the classroom only, but this can also happen anywhere. If your child lacks attentiveness, you should start examining your ways. You might think that you are not doing your job properly, however, you should try to understand your child better.
Kids usually lose attentiveness and concentration when they have Vitamin B12 deficiencies or if they’re scared of their surroundings. This happens when parents usually keep fighting with each other and yell on the child for no reason. Authoritative style parenting has an adverse effect on children, resulting in them not being attentive and confident.
4. When your child lacks confidence
This is a repercussion of parents always fighting. We need to understand that couples who always fight each other are expected to be bad parents. They might not realize this, but children are good observers. They observe and then they apply these traits to their personalities which is disastrous.
If your child lacks confidence, you should start with the ground level and try to cheer him/her for the little things in life. Help them explore themselves rather than being rude to them for no apparent reasons. There are thousands of ways to make your child understand the difference between right and wrong. Don’t push them since they are yet to establish their rationale.