How Trauma Responses Can Hijack Your Life

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trauma responses can hijack your life

People have varied reactions to distressing events and circumstances. Even when there are no apparent indications, we can have intense emotional reactions to trauma. These trauma reactions can have a significant negative impact on one’s life.

Here’s How Trauma Reactions Can Hijack Your Life

When your nervous system has been primed by trauma, you can overreact to perceived โ€œdangersโ€ that arenโ€™t life-threatening, like when your boss questions you or someone cuts in line in front of you.

When youโ€™re a trauma survivor, your defensive states can hi-jack your brain. Instead of helping you survive, trauma responses can become dysfunctional. They can harm your health, impair your ability to effectively handle problems, and disrupt your relationships. Knowing what your reactions are is the first step toward exercising conscious control over them.

How Trauma Responses Can Hijack Your Life
How Trauma Responses Can Hijack Your Life

Recent research has uncovered additional โ€œacute stress responsesโ€ to trauma beyond the original fight-flight-freeze reactions identified in the early 20th century.(1) Our brains activate the sympathetic nervous system in our spinal cord to survive a perceived threat that produces physiological changes affecting our entire body, including respiration, digestion, blood flow, and muscle tension.

Instead of naturally shifting to a normal state of functioning after a life-threatening encounter, states tend to endure. When we have trauma in our past, weโ€™re more easily aroused and our reactions take longer to settle down. When this happens, itโ€™s possible for trauma to have an intergenerational effect. We can unknowingly live for long periods in an aroused state. Wars, famines, and genocides can negatively affect the health and longevity of the children of traumatized parents. (2)

How Trauma Reactions Can Hi-Jack Your Life
How Trauma Responses Can Hijack Your Life

Fight

A fight reaction tightens our muscles and jaw preparing us to overtake an assailant. Like many narcissists, when we believe an offense is the best defense, we use aggression to keep ourselves safe. We feel tense, hot with rage, and our eyes narrow readying us to fight for our life.

How Trauma Responses Can Hijack Your Life
How Trauma Responses Can Hijack Your Life

Acknowledging that weโ€™re angry is a major help. When we can observe ourselves, weโ€™re able to think and are less likely to automatically attack someoneโ€”verbally or physically. Taking ten slow, deep breaths further calms us.

Related: When Depression Is a Symptom of Buried Anger: Hereโ€™s How To Heal It

Flight

In a flight response, weโ€™re highly anxious and hypervigilant. We scan the environment in preparation to flee danger. We can also attempt to flee emotions with constant busyness, perfectionism, and addictive, distracting behavior, such as binging on food, substances, work, exercise, or surfing the Internet.

We can live in constant anxiety when weโ€™ve experienced prolonged trauma. Weโ€™re no longer present in our lives in order to avoid dealing with our emotions. 

Freeze

If circumstances prevent us from fighting or fleeing, our system resorts to freezing. This is common in children who have no recourse when parents are angry or scolding. Our body appears frozen and our mind experiences a kind of dissociative paralysis. Weโ€™re unable to think clearly or reply to someone well. Inside weโ€™re frightened.

Our heart may be racing. We might feel dizzy or sweaty. This response can lead to shame when we canโ€™t find our thoughts or words in the middle of an interview or work presentation. An extreme reaction can cause your whole system to shut down and you fall asleep.

Related: Fight, Flight, Freeze: The Pitfalls of Empathy as a Please Response

Faun

A faun response, also called submit, is common among codependents and typical in trauma-bonded relationships with abusers and narcissists. When fawning, we seek to please and appease someone to avoid conflict. Internally, weโ€™re unable to regulate our emotions. We frantically look to someone else to normalize them.

Attachment becomes our priority, a pattern that likely began in childhood. In submitting, we go along to stay in the relationship. We canโ€™t stand up for ourselves or get our needs met. We avoid danger and pain by accommodating someone else. We shrink, silence our voice, and repress our wants and needs. Inside, we suffer and feel inferior and unworthy.

This is a typical response to living with an abuser, especially when the abuse involves rage, sexual trauma, or interpersonal violence. Sometimes, this reaction doesnโ€™t show up until weโ€™re in a relationship and feel frenzied to attach to our partner. Some narcissists flip from fight to faun and crave, plead, or demand attention to soothe their desperation. 

Flop

Like an animal caught in a predatorโ€™s jaws, in a flop response, our muscles go limp, and we might faint, become totally disoriented, or lose control over bodily functions.

Related: Core Wounds: 12 Signs You Have an Unhealed Core Wound

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References
Cannon, Walter (1932). Wisdom of the Body. United States: W.W. Norton & Company. ISBN 978-0393002058 https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20190326-what-is-epigenetics  


Written By: Darlene Lancer
Originally Appeared On: What Is Codependency
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