Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website

What Is Toxic Shame and How it Differs From Ordinary Shame

Toxic Shame creates false beliefs about ourselves others can’t refute and silently eats away at our spontaneity and confidence

What Is Healthy Narcissism? How Does it Differ from Self Love

Is self-love narcissistic? Is some narcissism healthy? Find out what when and how narcissism can be helpful and what makes it toxic

7 Reasons Why People End Up Loving An Abuser

It can feel humiliating to stay in an abusive relationship. Those who don’t understand ask why we love someone abusive. We don’t have good answers. But there are valid reasons.

8 Reasons Why People Ghost Out Of A Relationship

Rejection and breakups are hard enough, but being ghosted can be traumatic.

Trauma after Abuse

As hard as it was to break up an abusive relationship, it may still haunt us (sometimes even after the abuser is dead).

Relationship as a Spiritual Path

Have you ever thought about relationships as spiritual paths? Take a look at this interesting perspective: