Darlene Lancer, JD, LMFT

Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She's counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books and other online booksellers and her website

Your Partner Can Control Your Brain, Science Explains

Did you know, your partner can control your brain? A new study sheds light on how other people influence our minds.

Sibling Bullying and Abuse: Signs and Effects

Sibling abuse is the most common but least reported abuse in the family. Prevalence is higher than spousal or child abuse combined with consequences well into adulthood similar parent-child abuse.

Sons Of Narcissistic Mothers and The Damage They Suffer

Sons of narcissistic mothers don’t feel loved for who they are, but only for what they can do for their parent’s approval.

8 Ways Your Fear and Insecurity Is Sabotaging Your Relationship

Although we all seek love, we may unwittingly damage or derail it.

The Pros and Cons Of A Gray Rock Strategy

One strategy for dealing with a narcissist or sociopath is to act like a “gray rock”, meaning that you become uninteresting and unresponsive.

8 Ways We Sabotage Love

Fear of not being loved is the greatest reason we don’t find love and sabotage it in our relationships.

What Is Toxic Shame and How it Differs From Ordinary Shame

Toxic Shame creates false beliefs about ourselves others can’t refute and silently eats away at our spontaneity and confidence

What Is Healthy Narcissism? How Does it Differ from Self Love

Is self-love narcissistic? Is some narcissism healthy? Find out what when and how narcissism can be helpful and what makes it toxic

7 Reasons Why People End Up Loving An Abuser

It can feel humiliating to stay in an abusive relationship. Those who don’t understand ask why we love someone abusive. We don’t have good answers. But there are valid reasons.

8 Reasons Why People Ghost Out Of A Relationship

Rejection and breakups are hard enough, but being ghosted can be traumatic.

Trauma after Abuse

As hard as it was to break up an abusive relationship, it may still haunt us (sometimes even after the abuser is dead).

Relationship as a Spiritual Path

Have you ever thought about relationships as spiritual paths? Take a look at this interesting perspective: