3. A Partner Who Shares Your Goals and Dreams
When you start out in a relationship, you’re agreeable to the things your partner tells you they want out of life. At some point, you reach that level of comfort where you can tell them what’s on your mind. What’s on your mind may crush your partner’s dreams and goals.
Every man wants a partner who will be real from the beginning so that we don’t waste our time.
We want a partner who will support and dream with us. We want a partner who won’t settle for living a good enough life. This, of course, is assuming the goals and dreams are somewhat realistic.
4. A Partner Who’s Committed to Doing the Hard Work
Stay motivated and don’t get comfortable to the point of letting yourself go.
Relationships are hard work to maintain in the long run. They require our time, energy, and digging deeper. To grow, we have to choose to love instead of how we feel at times. Guys want a partner who gets that and is willing to put in the hard work with us.
We want someone who tries to understand us. Someone who attempts to get a feel for our moods and tries to understand what we’re going through. I’m not saying we want someone who will put us on a pedestal because we understand relationships are a two-way street. But, we want to know if you’re willing to put in the work–we are.
Love is one of life’s greatest feelings and experiences.
Every man and woman should experience a love so strong that you know it can only end very well or turn into a train wreck. That kind of love helps you grow as a person either way.
When you find that person you love with everything in you, commit to doing the hard work, but never lose who you are. Stay motivated and don’t get comfortable to the point of letting yourself go. And, this applies to guys as well.
Never stop pursuing your love, in the same way, you had done before you were together. Keep it spicy.
Written by Kimanzi Constable
Co-written by Chaka Dillion-El.
Originally appeared in The Good Men Project