Three Wrong Ways To Love Yourself And How To Do It Right

3) You are always on the lookout for that perfect relationship.

Do you think that once you find a partner, you will feel happy, complete and fulfilled?

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Do you feel that someone can make you feel appreciated, valued and loved by praising you?

Have you tried this strategy? Has this worked?

I bet, it wouldn’t have, because it is a losing strategy.

You cannot look to someone else to make you feel whole.

If you don’t love or value yourself, then you won’t be able to accept love from someone else also.

Because deep down you believe that you are unworthy of love.

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Ok, so now that we know that self-love is the prerequisite to living a happy, healthy and fulfilled life. So, how do we go about loving ourselves?


The good news is that loving ourselves, doesn’t require as much effort as convincing someone else to love us and it is much easier than emptying our pockets on expensive stuff.

Loving our self and having a solid and secure sense of self is way more powerful and lasting than hearing praises from someone or momentary thrills we get from buying expensive stuff.

Loving our self creates a foundation for living our best possible life.
When we love ourselves, we will only engage in authentic relationships and let go off toxic ones.

When we love ourselves, we will have the honesty and courage to be true to ourselves and face challenges with integrity.

When we love ourselves, our career blossoms because we show up to our purpose and contribute to the world unapologetically.

When we love ourselves, our health improves because we actually have the self-discipline and self-respect to practice healthy habits on a daily basis.


How to love ourselves right?

Self-love begins with self-awareness.

We cannot love something that we do not know.
So, in order to start loving yourself, the first step is to get to know you.
Get to know yourself thoroughly and then embrace everything that shows up with loving kindness.
Make a list of all your traits, the good and the ones that are not so good.

Read out this list loudly and then place your hand on your heart, repeat this affirmation,” I am strong; I am weak. I am flawed; I am broken. I am vulnerable. I am human. And despite these flaws, I give myself permission to love myself unconditionally. I am a growing, evolving being, who uses past mistakes as a fuel for my journey of growth. I accept myself as I am, and I set an intention to become the person I want to be.” – Melanie Greenberg

Spend time in meditation and contemplation and become aware of the patterns in your life. Become aware of any pain that is stuck inside and embraces that with loving kindness.
The more you learn to accept yourself fully with love and kindness, the more you will be able to love others with love and compassion.

Find the love you seek, by first finding the love within yourself. Learn to rest in that place within you that is your true home. – Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

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Shweta Advani
An HR consultant by profession, a slam poet and freelance writer.Avid reader,dancer and yoga enthusiast. When I am not reading or writing, I star gaze or take long walks in nature.
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