5 Things That Hold You Back From Achieving Your Dreams

Do you feel like you’re stuck in a rut, and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to get out of it? Achieving your dreams and achieving your goals can feel intimidating when there are things that hold you back, more like, obstacles. Read on to know more about the things that stop you from achieving your goals.

KEY POINTS

  • Five main obstacles stop people from achieving their career dreams.
  • Fear of failure is high on the list.
  • There are workable strategies for overcoming the main career obstacles.

“I want to help people” is a standard response when someone is asked why they’ve chosen their current profession. But somewhere between the desire and the outcome is a vast gap of nothingness. People are putting in the time toward their goals but not seeing results. Time does not equal productivity.

There are five main obstacles that stop most people from achieving their goals. The good news is that they are all surmountable.

The journey to pursuing career dreams can be exhilarating, filled with passion and purpose. However, the workforce is peppered with individuals giving up on their aspirations, filling themselves with discouragement and self-doubt.

There are common reasons people desert their career goals. But all hope is not lost. There are actionable strategies to help reignite enthusiasm and take the wheel of career success.

Related: 11 Limiting Beliefs That Are Holding You Back In Life

5 Things That Hold You Back From Achieving Your Dreams And Goals

1. Fear of Failure

Fear of failure is powerful and can paralyze even the most ambitious individuals. There is a palpable level of uncertainty accompanying wandering outside your comfort zone. The possibility of not achieving your stated goal can be overwhelming.

Rather than experience loss and potential embarrassment, many don’t even get out of the starting blocks. The fear of failure causes them never to launch.

What you can do:

Remember that failure is data. You can learn something from the experience. Ask yourself what is the worst that could happen. In reality, it is often not that bad, and perspective is everything here.

Seek support from mentors and your network to mitigate the fear and set realistic expectations. High achievers fear not trying more than they fear failing.

Things that hold you back - fear of failure

2. External Pressure and Expectations

As if self-doubts are not limiting enough, external pressure from family, society, social media, and others can disintegrate a person’s confidence and career dreams. Constant scrolling and hearing what others achieved can be overwhelming and depleting.

What you can do:

Those outside people are not living your life. As the saying goes, “If they aren’t paying rent, don’t let them take up real estate in your head.” Every person’s path to success is unique, as it should be, and defined by personal aspirations and values.

It should be based on how you see yourself, not on how others view you. Set boundaries, surround yourself with people who will support your dreams and open doors you never knew existed.

3. Impatience and Instant Gratification

Texting, notifications, and overnight delivery of online orders have created a reality in which pursuing long-term career dreams is misaligned with the expectation of immediate gratification.

Success comes before work only in the dictionary. Expecting quick wins is setting you up for disappointment. Nobel prizes and Olympic medals were all earned after decades of hard work, failures, and near misses.

What you can do:

Sometimes goals seem so big and so overwhelming that we don’t know where to start, so we don’t start at all.

Breaking down larger goals into bite-sized milestones, celebrating progress and small wins, and seeking guidance from mentors who have overcome similar challenges can help maintain focus and motivation.

Related: The Hidden Secret To Achieving Your Goals

4. Self-Doubt and Limiting Beliefs

Self-doubt, the inability to believe in our capabilities, can be a significant barrier to pursuing and obtaining career dreams. Imposter syndrome (learn how to overcome this) and limiting beliefs can undermine self-confidence and self-efficacy and inhibit progress.

What you can do:

It’s time to call out the invisible barriers you’ve set for yourself and gain some outside perspective. Challenge self-limiting beliefs, reframe negative thoughts, and practice self-compassion. Seek guidance from a mentor who can offer valuable perspective and support.

Things that hold you back - self doubt and insecurities

5. Lack of Resources and Opportunities

Sometimes we need more knowledge and, more important, access to that information. Limited access to resources, mentorship, or opportunities can pose a significant challenge and derail the pursuit of your career dream. It is difficult to go through doors you don’t even know exist.

What you can do:

You don’t know what you don’t know. It is critical to proactively seek out resources, through networking (learn nine easy ways to start a conversation with a stranger), conferences, webinars, online groups, and educational programs.

Engaging in continuous lifelong learning, diversifying your professional network, and actively seeking stretch assignments can all help you overcome such obstacles and open doors to new possibilities.

Abandoning your career goals is a choice that often arises due to fear, external pressures, impatience, self-doubt, and a lack of resources. You can discover empowering solutions to overcome these challenges by raising your awareness and recognizing and addressing these underlying reasons.

Related: Buddhism Reveals The Ultimate Mindset To Achieve Your Goals

You can find your lost motivation and reignite the pursuit of your career aspirations. It won’t happen overnight. The path to success is rarely linear or precise, but with determination, self-belief, and supportive mentors, you can overcome the overt and covert obstacles you face.


Written By Ruth Gotian
Originally Appeared On Psychology Today
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Ruth Gotian Ed.D., M.S.

Dr. Ruth Gotian is the Chief Learning Officer and Assistant Professor of Education in Anesthesiology and former Assistant Dean of Mentoring and Executive Director of the Mentoring Academy at Weill Cornell Medicine. She has been hailed by the journal Nature and Columbia University as an expert in mentoring and leadership development and is currently a contributor to Forbes where she writes about ‘optimizing success’. She also has a weekly show and podcast by the same name where she gathers high achievers to talk about their journey to success. In 2021, she was one of 30 people worldwide to be named to the Thinkers50 Radar List, dubbed the Oscars of management thinking, and is a semi-finalist for the Forbes 50 Over 50 list. She regularly publishes in such journals as Nature, Scientific American, Academic Medicine, Psychology Today, Forbes, and Harvard Business Review. Recently she won the Thinkers50 Distinguished Achievement “Radar” Award, ranking her as the #1 emerging management thinker in the world.

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Do you feel like you’re stuck in a rut, and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to get out of it? Achieving your dreams and achieving your goals can feel intimidating when there are things that hold you back, more like, obstacles. Read on to know more about the things that stop you from achieving your goals.

KEY POINTS

  • Five main obstacles stop people from achieving their career dreams.
  • Fear of failure is high on the list.
  • There are workable strategies for overcoming the main career obstacles.

“I want to help people” is a standard response when someone is asked why they’ve chosen their current profession. But somewhere between the desire and the outcome is a vast gap of nothingness. People are putting in the time toward their goals but not seeing results. Time does not equal productivity.

There are five main obstacles that stop most people from achieving their goals. The good news is that they are all surmountable.

The journey to pursuing career dreams can be exhilarating, filled with passion and purpose. However, the workforce is peppered with individuals giving up on their aspirations, filling themselves with discouragement and self-doubt.

There are common reasons people desert their career goals. But all hope is not lost. There are actionable strategies to help reignite enthusiasm and take the wheel of career success.

Related: 11 Limiting Beliefs That Are Holding You Back In Life

5 Things That Hold You Back From Achieving Your Dreams And Goals

1. Fear of Failure

Fear of failure is powerful and can paralyze even the most ambitious individuals. There is a palpable level of uncertainty accompanying wandering outside your comfort zone. The possibility of not achieving your stated goal can be overwhelming.

Rather than experience loss and potential embarrassment, many don’t even get out of the starting blocks. The fear of failure causes them never to launch.

What you can do:

Remember that failure is data. You can learn something from the experience. Ask yourself what is the worst that could happen. In reality, it is often not that bad, and perspective is everything here.

Seek support from mentors and your network to mitigate the fear and set realistic expectations. High achievers fear not trying more than they fear failing.

Things that hold you back - fear of failure

2. External Pressure and Expectations

As if self-doubts are not limiting enough, external pressure from family, society, social media, and others can disintegrate a person’s confidence and career dreams. Constant scrolling and hearing what others achieved can be overwhelming and depleting.

What you can do:

Those outside people are not living your life. As the saying goes, “If they aren’t paying rent, don’t let them take up real estate in your head.” Every person’s path to success is unique, as it should be, and defined by personal aspirations and values.

It should be based on how you see yourself, not on how others view you. Set boundaries, surround yourself with people who will support your dreams and open doors you never knew existed.

3. Impatience and Instant Gratification

Texting, notifications, and overnight delivery of online orders have created a reality in which pursuing long-term career dreams is misaligned with the expectation of immediate gratification.

Success comes before work only in the dictionary. Expecting quick wins is setting you up for disappointment. Nobel prizes and Olympic medals were all earned after decades of hard work, failures, and near misses.

What you can do:

Sometimes goals seem so big and so overwhelming that we don’t know where to start, so we don’t start at all.

Breaking down larger goals into bite-sized milestones, celebrating progress and small wins, and seeking guidance from mentors who have overcome similar challenges can help maintain focus and motivation.

Related: The Hidden Secret To Achieving Your Goals

4. Self-Doubt and Limiting Beliefs

Self-doubt, the inability to believe in our capabilities, can be a significant barrier to pursuing and obtaining career dreams. Imposter syndrome (learn how to overcome this) and limiting beliefs can undermine self-confidence and self-efficacy and inhibit progress.

What you can do:

It’s time to call out the invisible barriers you’ve set for yourself and gain some outside perspective. Challenge self-limiting beliefs, reframe negative thoughts, and practice self-compassion. Seek guidance from a mentor who can offer valuable perspective and support.

Things that hold you back - self doubt and insecurities

5. Lack of Resources and Opportunities

Sometimes we need more knowledge and, more important, access to that information. Limited access to resources, mentorship, or opportunities can pose a significant challenge and derail the pursuit of your career dream. It is difficult to go through doors you don’t even know exist.

What you can do:

You don’t know what you don’t know. It is critical to proactively seek out resources, through networking (learn nine easy ways to start a conversation with a stranger), conferences, webinars, online groups, and educational programs.

Engaging in continuous lifelong learning, diversifying your professional network, and actively seeking stretch assignments can all help you overcome such obstacles and open doors to new possibilities.

Abandoning your career goals is a choice that often arises due to fear, external pressures, impatience, self-doubt, and a lack of resources. You can discover empowering solutions to overcome these challenges by raising your awareness and recognizing and addressing these underlying reasons.

Related: Buddhism Reveals The Ultimate Mindset To Achieve Your Goals

You can find your lost motivation and reignite the pursuit of your career aspirations. It won’t happen overnight. The path to success is rarely linear or precise, but with determination, self-belief, and supportive mentors, you can overcome the overt and covert obstacles you face.


Written By Ruth Gotian
Originally Appeared On Psychology Today
things that stop you from achieving your goals

Published On:

Last updated on:

Ruth Gotian Ed.D., M.S.

Dr. Ruth Gotian is the Chief Learning Officer and Assistant Professor of Education in Anesthesiology and former Assistant Dean of Mentoring and Executive Director of the Mentoring Academy at Weill Cornell Medicine. She has been hailed by the journal Nature and Columbia University as an expert in mentoring and leadership development and is currently a contributor to Forbes where she writes about ‘optimizing success’. She also has a weekly show and podcast by the same name where she gathers high achievers to talk about their journey to success. In 2021, she was one of 30 people worldwide to be named to the Thinkers50 Radar List, dubbed the Oscars of management thinking, and is a semi-finalist for the Forbes 50 Over 50 list. She regularly publishes in such journals as Nature, Scientific American, Academic Medicine, Psychology Today, Forbes, and Harvard Business Review. Recently she won the Thinkers50 Distinguished Achievement “Radar” Award, ranking her as the #1 emerging management thinker in the world.

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