The Dilemma Of Loneliness: How To Stop Feeling Lonely

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There’s a difference between loneliness and solitude. Over the past few months, so many inquiries and articles have landed on my desk about loneliness that I’m beginning to wonder if it’s an epidemic.

Much of this has to do with the isolation associated with technological connections and the increased use of social media.

Sometimes it’s just easier to text someone than it is to get in your car and drive to have a cup of coffee or tea, but in the long run, feelings of loneliness might result. Further, in addition to the aging population and many elders living alone, many others are choosing to live alone, thus increasing incidences of loneliness.

Loneliness is not just about being alone, though, but rather, it is about a state of mind. Being lonely is about feeling disconnected from those around you, whether from an interpersonal or universal standpoint. Those who are lonely feel empty and drained.

Solitude, on the other hand, can be restorative and healing. Some individuals—such as surfers, bikers, artists, and writers—require solitude in order to do what they love. In fact, it has been said that creativity and solitude go hand in hand. In her 1929 diary, author Virginia Woolf claimed that feelings of loneliness instilled her with a sense of wisdom and creativity.

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Humans are social creatures, and in order to be happy, we need to establish some intimate bonds with others, but the challenge is to find a balance between solitude and socialization. We need both.

Related: Why Sleeping Is The Easiest (And Hardest) Part Of Living With Depression

Studies have revealed that those who experience excessive loneliness are more prone to sleep disorders, high levels of stress hormones, inflammation, heart disease, respiratory disease, cancer, and gastrointestinal problems. Recent statistics have shown that while obesity is a major health risk, there are greater risks: loneliness and social isolation.

Loneliness Is As Lethal As Smoking 15 Cigarettes Per Day

A study conducted by Julianne Holt-Lundstad at Brigham Young University found that isolation may increase the risk of premature death by up to 50 percent. These statistics are quite important in view of our aging population. In fact, an AARP loneliness study stated that 42.6 million adults over the age of 45 suffer from chronic loneliness, and these numbers will no doubt rise in the years to come.

Loneliness Is Contagious, Non-lonely People Who Hang Out With

Some claim that there are different types of loneliness. In her Psychology Today article “Seven Types of Loneliness, and Why it Matters,” Gretchen Rubin said that for the most part, loneliness fits in one of the following categories: new-situation loneliness, feeling-different loneliness, no-sweetheart/love loneliness, no-animal loneliness, no-time-for-the-self loneliness, untrustworthy-friends loneliness, and quiet-presence loneliness.

There are times when we simply want to be alone, and perhaps other times when we do not… but don’t know how to change the situation.

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Here Are Some Ways To Fend Off Feelings Of Loneliness:

· Join groups with like-minded people.

· Reach out to those in need.

· Talk to strangers in stores or other places you frequent.

· Consider engaging in a creative activity that involves others.

· Plan a coffee or lunch with friends every week.

· Write a letter to someone you’ve lost touch with.

· Consider adopting or fostering a pet or volunteering at an animal shelter.

· Call an emotional listening hotline—for example 1-800-931-4616.

Related: How to Stop Being an Emotionally Repressed Person: Crying Therapy

Please share this article with anyone who you may think will find it valuable and helpful.


References

Laing, O. (2016). The Lonely City: Adventures in the Art of Being Alone. New York, NY: Picador.

Latson, J. (2018). “The Cure for Disconnection.” Psychology Today. March/April. Vol. 51. No. 2. pp. 42–51.

Maitland, S. (2018). "How to Be Alone: Thoughts on Being Alone.” Flow Magazine. Issue 24, pp. 108–110.

Rubin, Gretchen. (2017). Psychology Today. “7 Types of Loneliness: And Why it Matters.” February 27.

Written by: Diana Raab, MFA, Ph.D
Originally appeared on:Psychology Today
Republished with permission 
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