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How Continuously Telling Small Lies Is Damaging Your Relationship

Telling Small Lies Damaging Relationship

When you choose to continuously tell small lies in a relationship, you are not just breaking your partner’s trust forever, you’re also damaging the relationship to a huge extent. You might think it’s all harmless, but it’s really not.

People tell white lies all the time in their daily lives. But if you’re in a relationship and start a pattern of telling little lies or hiding even the smallest things from your partner, it’s probably not going to end very well. Oftentimes people will hide things from the person they love or claim to be telling these small lies for a few different reasons.

One being whatever they are lying about may seem so insignificant, they don’t “feel that they need” to tell them. Or perhaps the “what you don’t know can’t hurt you” mantra comes into play, and they may believe they are saving their significant other from the pain of whatever truth they’re withholding.

Or, they may rightfully know they’re doing something that they probably shouldn’t be doing and are taking the coward’s way out by lying or hiding it from their partner. Whatever the case may be, hiding things and lying about even the smallest of things is sincerely damaging your relationship in many different ways.

Related: Why Partners Lie to Each Other So Much

6 Reasons Why You Need To Stop Telling Small Lies In A Relationship

1. You’re Setting Yourself Up To Tell Future Lies.

The more you begin lying about the little things, the chances are you’ll start to lie about bigger things down the road. The more you lie, the more you get comfortable doing so, or more tempted to do so if you start feeling like you’ve gotten better at it.

This can lead down a dark rabbit hole that will do nothing but get you caught up in those lies and could even result in the relationship ending.

2. You’re Not Only Breaking Trust, But You’re Disrespecting Your Partner.

Nobody likes to be lied to. If the tables were turned, you would not like your partner going around lying to you, no matter how small the lies may be or seem. And if your partner finds out (which they will), then you not only broke their trust, but you’ve disrespected them and the love they have for you.

You’re disrespecting their right to know the real truth, and you’re testing the boundaries of trust, honesty, and loyalty.

3. You’re Causing Your Partner to Feel Fear and Uneasiness.

Now your partner has to constantly worry about you lying or hiding things from them. Whether you’ve stopped lying or not, your partner will never know for sure since you lied so easily before. Beyond breaking trust, you’re causing an uneasiness in your relationship where your partner has to decipher truth from lies.

It’s just not fair. It’s like a ticking time bomb as they wait for your next lie to be uncovered. This induces A LOT of anxiety, stress, and fear that they probably would not have had if it wasn’t for you lying to them in the first place.

Related: 9 Relationship Habits That Are More Harmful Than Cheating

4. You Make It That Much Harder To Believe You… Even When You’re Telling The Truth.

Your partner hardly knows the difference between your truth and lies anymore. And even when you’re 100% telling the truth, they still may question it…and you can’t blame them because you caused that feeling of doubt.

small lies in a relationship
Telling small lies in a relationship

5. If You Lie About The Small Things, What’s Stopping You From Lying About Bigger Things?

You’re clearly not afraid to risk your relationship if you continue lying about “little things.” And if you do, then what’s going to stop you from learning your lesson? What will stop you from trying to hide or lie about something much bigger later on?

These are worries your partner will now carry with them, and with good reason. You’re much more capable of lying about serious things if you’re so quick to lie and hide when it comes to the smaller stuff.

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Nikki Rutledge

Nikki is from Boston and has been writing since she was a young girl. She often uses her personal experiences as inspiration for her writing, in the hopes of helping others out there who may have been through similar struggles. She and her husband run a small business called Moonlight & Mindfulness where they offer hand-poured crystal candles, homemade tea blends, and crystal items like jewelry and gift sets. Nikki is also a meditation practitioner and leads workshops on things like the moon phases and shadow work.View Author posts