Tips For Teen Introverts: 6 Ways To Embrace Your Introversion


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Teenagers who are introverts can sometimes have a tough time realizing, acknowledging, and embracing their introversion. However, this is okay, and shouldn’t push you to be too hard on yourself.

Today’s teens can often feel overwhelmed and sometimes awkward. It’s no wonder since they are transitioning from childhood to adulthood under the microscope of parents, teachers, and schoolmates. Teens are under so much social pressure every day, trying to be popular, make friends, compare body image, and consider dating. It all can be too much, especially when combined with an apprehensive desire for independence.

So how do teens figure all this out? Often by talking to similarly frustrated friends or finding means of escape like alcohol or drugs. But these are not the answers, they only serve as distractions. If feelings of awkwardness are left unchecked, they can spiral into low self-esteem, loneliness, and depression.

So many swirling thoughts can be overwhelming, but often many things can boil down to one source. When I was around fifty, I researched my own memoir by scanning old journals and recalling moments from decades past. I found a common thread of anxiety and low self-confidence which I could now attribute to introversion.

You Might Be an Introvert If…

  • You enjoy friends in small doses, often 2-4 people for an hour or less.
  • Large groups for extended periods of time are exhausting.
  • You loathe being put on the spot, in group projects, roundtable discussions, or spontaneous debates.
  • You enjoy solo activities like reading, writing, art, or relaxation time.

Related: 7 Reasons to Be Proud to Be an Introvert

What Introversion Is/Is Not

Introversion is a personality type often compared to extroversion. Both lie on the same continuum and everyone resides often at several places on the continuum depending on specific situations. No two introverts are the same. Traditionally, extroversion has been held up as the societal norm reserved for gregarious, social, fast-thinkers.

Introverts, therefore, have been cast as the opposite – hermits, anti-socials, cold, and selfish. These definitions are antiquated and unfair. Introverts are often introspective and also caring individuals who enjoy social times within their close circle of friends.

The common bond amongst introverts is that they need some alone time to recharge, just as extroverts tend to reenergize with social time.

Another common misunderstanding is that shyness and introversion are synonymous. Introversion is a personality type derived from our DNA, it is part of our foundation. People learn to embrace their introversion and use their inherent strengths to find success and happiness.

Shyness is more of an anxiety disorder when contemplating social engagements or public speaking. Shyness can be mitigated with practice while introversion cannot be overcome, just managed. Oftentimes it is difficult to discern the difference as both shy and introverted people often suffer from low self-esteem and can withdraw as a safety precaution.


6 Ways To Embrace Your Introversion

1. Confide in someone you trust (parent, friend, teacher, counselor, clergy).

It helps to get the swirling thoughts out of your head and for others to help. You are not alone. Approximately 50% of the population are considered introverts!

2. Learn about introversion.

This will enable you to purge the social stigmas and realize introversion is a gift. Susan Cain’s Quiet is considered the quintessential reference for introverts. My memoir, In Search of Courage: An Introvert’s Story may also serve to help you realize you are not alone by hearing someone else’s struggles and personal journey. Or you can peruse my wide variety of blog hyperlinks in this article or more on the Beyond Introversion website.

3. Discover your strengths.

Introverts have many unique strengths which help build friendships, families, and businesses. Once you understand your strengths you can grow them and use them to succeed in even the most frustrating situations.

Take our free Introvert Superpower Quiz to get your personalized score and material to starting growing your natural strengths today.

Related: 11 Self-Care Tips for Teens and Young Adults

4. Stretch kindly.

It helps to use your strengths to stretch beyond your comfort zone. Every time you do so you build confidence and learn new things. Be kind to yourself through the journey. It’s not about stretching to a point of discomfort (or misery) but to a point of expanding your comfort zone.

5. Reenergize throughout your day.

We operate best with energy. If you know that certain classes or social time will be exhausting, include time to refuel during your day. Don’t wait until the end of the day or when all your energy is drained. Try journaling, walking, listening to music, art, or reading. Even a small respite will reenergize you for the next several hours.

6. Journal periodically.

Some like to journal daily and others weekly. Regardless, it’s a great way to get your thoughts and worries on paper. Use the pages to sort out problems or plan your approach for the next party or class presentation. Celebrate even your small successes and rid yourself of the negative self-talk that whispers in your ear.

Related: Introvert Confessions: 13 Honest Revelations Of An Introvert

The 5 Phases Of Introversion

Introversion is not a state of being, but a journey. What phase are you in? How can you accelerate your journey?

1. Unaware

Many people live for decades before even being aware that the term introversion may apply to them.

2. Uninformed

Even more frustrating, many introverts sink into the negative stigma of introversion which now applies to them. They become self-conscious and often depressed.

3. Enlightened

Finally, introverts begin to learn the true definition of introversion and the strengths they have been endowed with. This begins the path to authenticity and self-confidence.

4. Content

After learning about their own strengths, introverts become comfortable in their own skin and are happy to dismiss the occasional naysayer.

5. Flourish

Some introverts stretch even beyond Content and apply their strengths and ambitions to achieve goals they only dreamed about before.

In our recent survey of over 100 introverts, only 45% said they realized they were an introvert in their teens; ie, they became aware but still uninformed. For most, such an epiphany occurred in their twenties or thirties and for some even beyond 50.

Though life may seem overwhelming as a teenager, recognizing your own introversion at this early age and taking the steps to accelerate your journey through learning, self-compassion, and practice, will empower you toward contentment and flourishing well ahead of most others.

Related: Why Introverts Make Great Leaders? 9 Science-Backed Reasons

You are not any weirder than anyone else. Embrace who you are. You have many strengths that will enable you to be whatever you want to be, a politician like Barack Obama or Abraham Lincoln, an actor like Emma Watson or Meryl Streep, an athlete like Michael Jordan, a business leader like Bill Gates, Elon Musk, or Warren Buffett, an activist (Eleanor Roosevelt or Rosa Parks) or writer (J.K. Rowling, Dr. Seuss) too. Don’t hold yourself back and surely don’t let others keep you down.

Begin your journey and you will proudly exclaim, “I am an introvert!”

Written By Steve Friedman 
Originally Appeared On Beyond Introversion 
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