Have you ever wondered why emotional trauma is so difficult to heal, or why emotional wounds grow bigger with time? Just like our physical bodies know how to heal, our emotional bodies also know how to heal, and, therefore, emotional healing should not be so difficult nor take so long.
So, what’s the problem?
Well, the biggest problem is that we misinterpret emotional pain, and, as a result, we don’t really know what we’re healing, and because we miss the underlying cause, we approach healing all wrong. Consequently, we unknowingly perpetuate our own wounds and prevent our own healing.
The good news is that once you understand the real cause of emotional wounds, you’ll immediately possess the cure – and this pivotal knowledge will give you the power to heal yourself! However, to grasp the full perspective, we’ll need to start at the beginning…
Life Is A Feedback System
Beginning in early childhood, we naturally interpret life experiences by formulating beliefs. Although we choose beliefs that seem to provide the best explanation at the time, most beliefs are based on an immature interpretation of events, and, as a result, our adult lives are based on the disempowering beliefs we developed during childhood.
Identify your beliefs
Although it’s natural to identify with our beliefs and believe they are absolutely true, by nature of being a belief, no belief is indisputably true. Beliefs are only true to the degree we make them true, and this is why a belief is called a “belief.” Not only is every belief “make-believe,” a belief only has the power we give it (through the strength of our belief).
Nonetheless, once we apply meaning to an experience, the subconscious mind accepts our assessment as unquestionable truth and then seeks experiences that prove our beliefs to be true. In fact, whether we know it or not, our beliefs create our reality. As a perfect feedback system, life demonstrates all our beliefs, and this means that as we project individual beliefs onto the 3D movie screen called “life,” those beliefs manifest as real-life circumstances – specific to each of us.
Since empowering beliefs manifest as positive experiences and disempowering beliefs manifest as issues and challenges, the underlying cause of unwanted circumstances is virtually always one or more corresponding beliefs. Therefore, when someone has beliefs regarding powerlessness, those beliefs inevitably manifest as disempowering experiences and even victimhood.
Needless to say, until we are conscious of our beliefs, we unconsciously create most of our experiences, and, of course, this includes the disempowering circumstances that cause emotional wounds.
Since it can be difficult to discern empowering beliefs from disempowering beliefs, we all come equipped with an inner guidance system – this system of guidance is known as emotion. You see, every belief has a specific vibration associated with it, and when our minds interpret this vibration, we experience emotion.
Just like we are equipped with eyes to see and ears to hear, emotions give us the ability to identify the quality of our beliefs. As signposts that guide our lives, emotions indicate whether a belief is empowering or disempowering:
- Empowering beliefs provoke positive emotions and manifest as positive circumstances.
- Disempowering beliefs provoke negative emotions and manifest as negative circumstances.
By acting as an internal warning system, emotional pain (aka negative emotion) alerts us to disempowering beliefs, and, in fact, emotional pain indicates that our interpretation of past or present events is based on disempowering beliefs. For instance, if we interpret a challenging event with the belief that we are unworthy, powerless, unlovable, not good enough, etc… it triggers emotional pain.