I used to think to find the right person would be this crazy, life-altering moment. Perhaps I would be walking down the street and bump into the love of my life. Or I would recognize a close male friend as this absolute pillar, and suddenly realize I was meant to be with him for the rest of my life.
It didnโt quite work out that way, but I think that has made me even more grateful.
See, what Iโve learned about finding the right personโand recognizing youโre finally with the right person โis that itโs all in the little things.
Itโs the smiles, the laughter. Itโs coming home after a long day and falling into a hug. Itโs being mid-argument and realizing thereโs no one in this world Iโd rather fight with. Itโs turning over in the middle of the night and seeing him sleeping next to me. Itโs the little things.
Here are the (little) signs youโre finally with the right person:
1. Youโre always making two of something unconsciously.
Two slices of toast for breakfast, two eggs in the frying pan. Even when you arenโt trying, this person is your unconscious priority. You have carved a space for him/her in your life and your heart without thinking.
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2. He or she is the first person you think about when something happens.
Whether itโs good or bad, he/she is the first person that jumps into your mind when you have news. You canโt help but want to share about the big and little things, confide in your deepest secrets. And when it comes to the day-to-day, this is the person youโve opened up to.
3. You think about your plans in terms of what youโre doing together.
Although youโll always be your own person with your own life and plans, when youโre asked about what youโre doing over the weekend, you are quick to think about that in terms of what the both of you are doing. Without trying, your thoughts are โweโ rather than โI.โ
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4. You ask his/her opinion before saying โyesโ to something.
You value this personโs opinion, so much so, that you want his/her input before you jump into a new opportunity or commitment. Although you donโt let him/her dictate your choices and opinions, you prioritize his/her perspective because it matters to you.
5. His/her smile brings a smile to your face without trying.
You could be mid-sentence, mid-bite, mid-argument, and a smile on this personโs face brings a warmth you just canโt explain. You love him/her. Itโs as simple as that.
6. Youโd rather fight with that person than be with anyone else.
You could have heated moments, slamming doors and yelling at the top of your lungs, but you know thereโs no one else youโd rather fight with. When it comes to the messiness and hard parts of this life, youโd go through hell and back with this person. No matter what, youโll choose to stay.
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7. You feel both comfortable and excited in your relationship.
Thereโs a level to comfort and familiarity with this person that you just canโt explain. You feel like you can truly be yourself and be safe, and yet, thereโs also this passion and excitement that continually reminds you why you fell in love in the first place.
8. You find him/her annoying, yet those are some of the things you love.
You hate the way he leaves his socks on the floor instead of putting them in the hamper, or how she always leaves her breakfast bowl in the sink instead of washing it and putting it on the rack. These small things drive you crazy! And yet, you wouldnโt want to be driven crazy by anyone else.
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9. Youโre not scared of the future anymore.
You used to be afraid of the future, used to be afraid of what would come next or where youโd go. But now, with this person by your side, you know that life is scary and big and largely unknownโbut youโre not alone.
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