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10 Ways The Right Person Will Love You

10 Ways The Right Person Will Love You

Real love is unconditional.

My husband and I are high school sweethearts. We’ve been together for 22 years, and married for 14. Some might say we’re total opposites. He’s lively and outgoing; I’m quiet, a pretty classic introvert.

Our relationship isn’t perfect. We fight over little things sometimes. I wish with all my heart that he would remember to take out the trash without constant reminders. He wishes I would stop with the constant nitpicking. Our fights can get heated, especially when we’re tired and overwhelmed with work, life, and kids.

Most of the time, though, we really enjoy each other. We have a lot of common interests and really good chemistry. We have a commitment to work through our disagreements, and to find a way to understand one another. But what holds us together — and what has contributed most to the longevity of our relationship — is the way we love each other. Our love has always been unabashed, plentiful, and real.

But it’s not just the love you feel — it’s the openness with which you share it, and in what ways you show up to express it.

Here are ten ways you can tell that you have found someone who really knows how to love you.

 

1. They will love you without condition.

Real love comes without any expectations. You don’t have anything to prove, nothing to win. Yes, at the beginning of a love affair, you’re trying to entice and impress each other, but as time goes on there’s no need to perform in order to make love last.

 

2. They will listen — really listen.

This is a big one. Real listening means that you throw your own agenda out the window and really absorb what the person is saying, without judgment. It’s not always easy to do, but truly loving someone means being able to be there for them through thick and thin, and being a good, empathetic confidant.

 

3. They will love you for who you are, not an idealized version of what they want a partner to be.

The day I realized that my husband will never remember to do certain things without a reminder or two (or three), I felt my love deepen for him a little. It sounds counter-intuitive, but when I realized that I couldn’t change him — and just needed to find a way to work with who he was — I could appreciate all the things he could do for me and our family. It helps that he will happily do housework, but just can’t remember to do it on his own.


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4. They will give you space.

At the beginning of a relationship, it’s normal to be inseparable, to want to do every last thing together. But there comes a point where each partner needs some space. When and how this happens varies from person to person and one relationship to another.

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