9 Signs You’re Not In Love With Your Partner

Signs Not In Love

Love is the most magical thing we can experience in life. But being in love and being in a relationship are two different things. We can be in a relationship with someone we do not love. The difference between love and infatuation can be hard to see even though you may feel it inside. Here are some signs you’re not in love with your partner

This is why we are always looking for someone we can share our life with. Someone who will accept and love us for who we are, despite our flaws and imperfections. Someone we can grow with sharing the best and worst moments of our lives.

Love drives us to commit to someone and be in a relationship even though the ride may be bumpy at times. Love demands that we are patient, compassionate, understanding and supportive. Love requires that we have the strength to let go of the person we love, when it’s time.

Is it love or something else?

What do you feel when you are with your partner?

Do you feel excited? Do you feel anxious? Or do you feel calm and peaceful? How your partner makes you feel can often be an indicator of whether you are in love or simply infatuated with them.

Our need for seeking love can often make us desperate and even afraid of being lonely. This can make us confuse lust with love. Being in love and being in a relationship are two different things. We can be in a relationship with someone we do not love.

Although your relationship may feel euphoric initially, soon you may realize this may not be love after all. Sometimes, the difference between love and infatuation can be hard to see even though you may feel it inside.

Confused?

Read: Is it Love or Just Lust? This Is How To Tell

In this article, we are going to talk about some of the warning signs you were never actually in love with your partner..

Now let’s take a look at some signs that what you are feeling isn’t love, but infatuation.

9 signs you were never really in love

1. Things move fast in your relationship

You’ve known each other only for a short period of time, yet you feel an intense attraction towards them. You just know that they are THE ONE. But love at first sight often means infatuation at first sight. 

Infatuation is instant and quick. True love, however, takes time to grow. 

If you barely know your partner yet feel like spending most of your time with them there’s a good chance it might not be love. Infatuation results in chemical reactions in the brain releasing Norepinephrine and Dopamine which make you feel good and excited. 

Love grows gradually and you feel increasingly connected with each other when you know more about them. Love may be slow, but it makes up for it through genuine emotions, caring, shared memories, values, common goals and authenticity.

2. You feel uncomfortable around your partner

You don’t feel confident enough to share your most vulnerable thoughts and feelings with your partner as you feel self-conscious about how you portray yourself. You either feel like you don’t deserve them or you are trapped in a cage. You build a wall around yourself and stop yourself from revealing all your secrets to them.

When you’re in love, however, you feel completely comfortable around them. You are not afraid of revealing your most authentic self as you know that despite your imperfections, your partner will still love and appreciate you. Love doesn’t make you feel ashamed of being how you truly are as love is free of judgement and criticism.

3. You want a ‘perfect’ partner

You seek perfection from your partner as you are unable to accept them for who they are. This isn’t loving, but lust. When you are infatuated with someone, you want them to be perfect so that you can show them off as a prize to boost your social status. When they fail to meet your expectations, you become irritated, annoyed, displeased, and angry with them, leading to toxic arguments. Projecting your wishes, fantasies, or wants onto them is a recipe for disaster.

Love, on the other hand, is built on acceptance and understanding. Love makes you see the beauty inside your partner regardless of their many flaws. When you are in love, you accept them just as they are without wanting to change them. You don’t pressurize them to be a certain way and want to be with them even at their worst.

Read: 3 Tips for Finding the Perfect Partner for You

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