How can you know for sure that you are finally over that ex when life returns to normal after a breakup? Here are 5 signs you are getting over your ex.
I know that break ups are horrible and that the recovery period seems endless but keep a look out for signs that you are getting over your ex, finally, and that you will be able to move on!
When you are deep into the pain of the mourning period, it’s hard to feel hopeful that you will ever get past this. As a result, we often miss the signs that we are getting better and this can hold us back from moving forward.
Knowing the signs that you are getting over your ex is a key to moving forward and finding the love that you seek!
5 Encouraging Signs You Are Getting Over Your Ex
1. You are feeling hopeful.
Remember when you first broke up? When the world seemed like a horrible place and when you had no hope that anything would ever be ok again?
Are you still feeling this way or are there perhaps little glimmers of hope that the future holds some possibilities and that you will be ok?
When we have lived with feelings of hopelessness for a long time, it’s hard to notice when those little moments appear. We either don’t see them or ignore them, not believing what they signify.
Well, I can tell you that those little moments of hopefulness should not be ignored because they are definitely a sign that you are getting over your ex!
What kind of little signs am I talking about? A feeling of excitement (no matter how small) about some plans you have made with friends. A promotion at work. The muscle that you are building at the gym. That you can look at other men/women and not be completely disgusted.
You will get over your break up, that I can promise you. Noticing little moments of hope are a sign that you are well on your way to doing so.
2. You no longer stalk them on social media.
Be honest. When you first broke up with your person, did you spend an inordinate amount of time stalking them on social media?
Did you check their Insta-stories and their TikTok likes regularly throughout the day? Did you try to piece together what their lives looked like without you? Did you look for signs that they weren’t happy after the break up?
Unfortunately, many people stalk their exes on social media. In the old days, a break up was a break up. Keeping tabs on your ex was something that required a lot of energy, something that you don’t need today. Access to your ex is right there at your fingertips!
So, ask yourself – are you spending less time than you used to looking at them on social media? Do you find yourself drawn to things that used to interest you, like cute puppy videos?
If the answer to this question is yes, that you don’t have as much interest in what they are doing and who they are doing it with, then it is definitely an encouraging sign that you are getting over your ex and that you are moving forward.
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3. You have clarity about what happened.
When we first go through a break up we are so confused about what happened. We often blame ourselves or look outside the relationship to see what might have led to the break up.