If a parent is too mad to have a rational conversation, they should excuse themselves before they are ready for a straightforward conversation to clear the matter.
Toxic parents will never engage in mutual interactions backed by good listening skills and understanding.
12. They Ignore Healthy Boundaries.
In certain situations, it may even be necessary for parents to do a bit of snooping to keep them protected. However, everyone needs to be able to set clear, healthy boundaries for themselves, especially teenagers.
Parents who are toxic, override these boundaries at every juncture, and not only lose the trust of their children but also strain the positive relationship between themselves.
For example, a toxic parent will open their child’s door without knocking first, will use their children’s personal stuff without their knowledge. Parents definitely have the rights to enmesh their children but never to the extent of creating a toxic connection with them.
This sets up a pattern that makes it hard for their children to properly recognize and understand boundaries later in life.
13. They Make You Responsible For Their Happiness.
If one of your parents directly or indirectly holds you responsible for the unhappiness and struggle in his/her life, then he/she is placing unrealistic expectations on your role in their life.
No child should be held accountable for their parent’s happiness.
Also, parents should never expect their children to give up on their dreams and goals just to make them content. Being forced into this situation will make it difficult for adult children to understand that we are all responsible for our own happiness.
Cutting away connections with toxic people from your life may seem impossible, especially if one of them is a parent.
Unless you actively look into the matter, it will be much harder to undo the emotional and mental damage already inflicted on the child by a toxic parent.
On the plus side, any toxic parent who recognizes themselves within the 13 points in this article can turn to a trained counselor for assistance with breaking their negative behavioral patterns.
If you want to know more about the signs of a toxic parent, then check this video out below: