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9 Signs You Are Ready For A New Relationship

Signs You Ready For New Relationship

When and how do you actually know that you are finally ready to be in a new relationship, after going through a horrible breakup?

One heartbreak is like a thousand lessons. Being able to love again is implementing the lessons you learned.

All troubled relationships leave a certain amount of bitterness in our mouth. Most of such relationships are so painful that it makes us a whole new person, in all the degrading senses possible – a person unable to trust others, a person lost in hopelessness, a person who has no faith in humanity anymore; all in all a disintegrated person.

We are unable to look optimistically ahead to the future.

It is common for us to feel disoriented and it almost feels like we have visited hell and back. Experts and psychologists suggest that as time passes, with effort and a little will power, you can see the glimmer of hope.

Here are the top signs that indicate you are on a road to recovery from your unsatisfactory past relationship:

1. You are unaffected by your ex’s actions.

During a breakup, we often move through different phases of emotional outbursts:

  • The first of which is being desperate for answers – asking yourself and seeking answers from your close friends and family members about what exactly went wrong, feeling clueless and disoriented about why the other person left you.
  • The second is being in denial. Here, we keep on telling ourselves lies about it being ‘just a bad phase’ to move over.
  • The third phase is where we keep on bargaining the consequences of the breakup with our partners. We beg them to at least lessen the harshness of the punishment they inflict on us.
  • The fourth phase is where you relapse to the pain and agony you were denying so long.
  • Now, you are overcome with anger and become extremely violent to yourself and to others; frustration engulfing you whole.
  • The last two phases are initial acceptance and redirected hope which makes you entirely free from the poisonous thoughts of the other person.

When you reach the last two phases you will entirely feel yourself rejuvenated with a new sunshine of hope. Your ex-partner’s reactive actions on social media, their sightings, accidental bump-ins with them, their new partner- none of it will matter to you anymore. They become just another part of the crowd and are left in the periphery of your attention.

And now you can sense, other people are centering in on your attention! 

9 Signs You Are Ready For A New Relationship
9 Signs You Are Ready For A New Relationship

2. You sense a feeling of attraction.

Most of us hardly get compliments or are encouraged on our good looks when we are with a troubled partner.

We are hardly noticed for our external appearances, our virtues and that can take a toll on our confidence level. Another way we hardly pay attention to other people’s flattery and often ignore loud signs of someone being attracted to us, when committed in a relationship.

But with time, you notice how people react to you.

You start feeling special again – you spend more time grooming yourself, changing your lifestyles, actively eating healthy, investing more on ‘me-times’ and not just that but also feel extremely attractive. 

Apparently, you are engaging in self-discovery and finding peace in it.

3. You notice others and find them attractive.

With time you start feeling joyous and notice a lot of people of the opposite sex.

As you are healing from the previous relationship, you will see how others are endearing and appeal to you. Even those who initially didn’t catch your attention start to hold a place in your heart.

You start becoming less critical and observe people with an open mind. The world and its people start looking more positive and better for you now.

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4. You treat yourself generously.

Bad relationships are mostly about ill-treatment. Coming from a persistent circumstance of being mistreated, abused, emotionally drained, sabotaged, and neglected, you learn to put value to your damaged soul once you are out of the relationship. 

You get so used to being mistreated that you may not see good intentions for any action from anyone.

But with time, you not only start acknowledging the good in others, but you also feel appreciated. It is then when you taste respect and self-worth again.

You feel gratitude and the will to give back positivity as you receive, returns back.

5. You start appreciating yourself.

A bad relationship is often characteristic of dysfunctional communication and connection.

With time though, you start respecting your hobbies once more and seek out for more pursuits in the long run.

The more you start engaging with your hobbies, the more you get to understand your worth as an individual, which the toxic relationship has robbed you of.

You start rebuilding yourself by engaging in pleasurable activities that tell you about your self-worth –  completing an artwork, writing a piece, baking a cake, doing embroidery, etc.

Related: 12 Things You Need To Accept To Be Ready For A Relationship

6. You get back on the groove with friends.

People often isolate themselves when in bad relationships because they don’t want to be an emotional burden on their friends and keep ranting about their pain. We never want people to see our vulnerable selves.

With time, however, those changes and our past situations give a way to new ones.

If you are feeling the urge to make new friends and remove fences, it means you are finally believing in life and want to enjoy it again.

7. Your health starts to improve.

One of the first signs of moving in the right direction is about a decrease in stress levels.

When you are under constant stress and prolonged deteriorated state of mind, your body is depleted of all the resources it had, to let you survive through the bad times.

Once your surroundings start to show positive changes, your body starts to reveal positive reactions too. It is inversely proportional to self-care.

You might also lose weight and get active. All this indicates a spurt in happiness.

8. You again give romance a shot.

When you were in a bad relationship, you probably were not giving much of a shot to romance.

Romantic escapades and positivity seemed a far cry. With time, you may come out of that phase and seek intimacy again. Your mindset about love is no more negative; you believe that you deserve another shot at romance and love.

You are happy again and fantasize about closeness.

Related: 3 Ways To Know You’re Ready For A Relationship

9. You start feeling hopeful.

Hope does not spring when you are in bad company. It all looks lonely, scary, and gloomy. You no longer feel like your life has come to a standstill. You feel that the break up was a lesson to learn from and be wise.

But if you are feeling that your choices are making you happy and solitude makes you empowered, you are on the road to start afresh.

You don’t wake up one fine morning to realize you are ready to start afresh. Its a gradual but sure process which takes lot of faith and patience.

“In every end, there is also a beginning.”
― Libba Bray,A Great and Terrible Beauty

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James America

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