When you are in love with someone, the best feeling is when he reciprocates your love. But unfortunately, not every man is like that; some men stay with women only because they are convenient for them. That is why it is important to know the signs that he’s not in love, he is simply with you for other dubious reasons.
Ironically even the most honest and purest of all ‘love’ is now being faked with ease. This one is quite tricky, differentiating a real relationship from one which stinks of lust, betrayal, or just convenience.
A real relationship requires lots of effort, raw emotions, and honesty. An affair sounds to be an easy deal but a real relationship is always better than a fake one in the long run. Those who just want to get in your pants don’t have the balls to put in the efforts, because they do not have any kind of emotional depth. Loyalty is not everyone’s cup of tea.
Not everyone who says those cheesy words actually loves you. Love requires efforts and not everyone is ready for that. People can manipulate you and make you feel that they are the ones for you and their love is true. But the sad truth is that they could care less about your feelings, and they only care about what they can get from you. They are people who will exploit you completely, and when they will get what they want, they will cast you aside.
Here Are 10 Signs He’s Not In Love, You Are Just Convenient
1. You don’t know each other’s family or friends.
When someone genuinely loves you and wants to have a life with you, they will always want you to meet their family and friends. And not just meet, they would hope and wish that you would gel well with them.
Not introducing you to his parents and friends even after months of being in a relationship can only mean two things – he doesn’t see a future with you and wants to break up or he was never interested in you, it was all for sexual gains. You know you are a convenience for him when he refuses to take you home, even when you request countless times for the same.
2. There are no lovely memories.
Love is an exceptional feeling and if you feel anything less than amazing, is it even love? If your relationship is like any other day of your single life and there isn’t anything that touches you or makes you laugh or gives you any special feeling then that is not a real relationship.
There has to be something, anything! The times you laughed together at silly jokes, some silly nicknames, or anything. It doesn’t need to be a big event or adventure, it can be any small moment that brought you closer.
If sex is the only thing that reminds you of them, then there is something definitely wrong. Sex is important, but it should not be the only thing driving a relationship; there are so many more things that are more important than sex.
3. Poor or no communication.
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. If you don’t remember when was the last time you both talked to each other properly and had a heart to heart conversation, then you’re not really in love. You have a right to know what’s happening in your partner’s life because you are a part of his life!
You ought to have those 2 am conversations once in a while. You ought to talk about your deepest feelings sometimes. You ought to be vulnerable, and open to them at times. If you come to know their how and where about from social media and even their birthday from Facebook, your relationship cannot be real.
Your conversations shouldn’t be limited to what sexual adventure you fantasize about or anything that revolves around sex, because real love is much more than that.
4. Sex, sex, and sex.
This is the obvious one. If sex is the only thing that makes you feel connected with each other, but when it comes to communication you are clueless, then you need to take a step back and take a long, hard look at your relationship. If sex is the only thing that makes you feel in sync or connected then you are not in a real relationship.
A real relationship is about true and raw emotions, passion, love, trust, and not just passion in bed. If sex is the only thing that is keeping you both together, then you are in a ‘Friends with benefits’ relationship.
When you are with a man like this, then you will see that they will sweep you off your feet in the beginning, and make you feel like the most beautiful and special woman in the world. But as time will go by, they will start losing interest, till the point when they will simply ignore you.