Two people in an intimate relationship draft and sign on a contract that acts as a medium for honest conversation. If you have no idea about it, here is a relationship agreement for you. Sign before investing!
The Relationship Agreement
These amended and related relationship laws are made and entered into on the date of ____________ by ____________ and ____________. The relationship’s purpose shall be to develop and maintain and promote the growth of both parties involved. To create the space that supports and champions each other’s stories. This relationship agreement may become null and void only after an in-person meeting consisting of verbal communication with eye contact. Hands must be shown. Both parties must be seated.
The intentions of both parties entering this agreement and relationship are as follows: To love fully without manipulation or control. “Fully” shall be defined as loving with honesty and integrity, in good faith pulling from one’s heart and seeking the best life for the other party. To love not to hate. Both agree to execute love with the best of their ability, with the intention to build something real and lasting.
“Real and lasting” shall be defined as an honest love with healthy intentions until the love is no longer honest or healthy after both parties can say they have done everything in their power to keep the love honest and healthy.
Both parties agree to see intimacy as an exploration. Both parties agree that orgasm is not the goal during sexual encounters. There shall be no pressure on either party to give or receive orgasms. Exploration shall be defined as a deepening of souls. Not just sexual activities.
Both parties agree to put effort into said exploration, knowing new definitions will be created. If one party does not wish to have sex at any time, even if the other party has been aroused, the party’s choice shall not be held against him or her.
It is the aroused party’s own responsibility to take care of said arousal. That said, some form of communication from the participant not wanting to engage in sex is required. The length of communication shall be determined by the individual. Eye contact is not required during communication.
Kissing will be required daily. Although duration and type of kiss shall remain open, at least one six-second kiss will be the daily recommendation.
Both parties will be aware and understanding of each other’s love languages, based on Gary Chapman’s 5 love languages. Receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. This understanding shall be taken into consideration when the way one practice intimacy does not match the other.
Both parties have a right to not disclose their sexual history. Choosing to withhold one’s sexual history shall not be held against them. Or be a measure of one’s love in the relationship. Continuously prying about one’s sexual history will not be tolerated.
1. Inner Self.
Both parties will do their best to love without their past. “Do their best” will be determined by the individual according to where they are in their mental/emotional space and inner journey. This may fluctuate depending on external life forces and events.
Loving without one’s past shall include but are not limited to: Not comparing past relationships with this current one. Being aware of old love patterns, both in thought and behavior, that are unhealthy and making an action to change them. Not putting pressure and or expectations on the partner to be or behave in a way that is not honest to him or her.
Both parties shall be responsible to work on attachment issues, mommy/daddy issues, codependency issues. “Work on” shall be defined as seeing a therapist, counselor, or attending workshops and meetings. Workshops can be online but must be live. Reading self-help books only does not meet the minimum requirement of “work on”.