7 Reasons You Think You’ll Never Find True Love and why it’s wrong

A shocking number of women have given up on finding love — but they shouldn’t.

A recent poll of 2,000 adults suggests that one woman out of every eight has given up on trying to figure out how to find true love.

It sounds radical — and sad. But how seriously should we take it?

In all probability, Dionne Warwick expressed it best all those years ago, when she sang the anthem for heartbroken women everywhere, I’ll Never Fall In Love Again. That song is all about feeling disappointed after a failed romance, and it ends with the wryly self-aware lines, “So for at least until tomorrow, I’ll never fall in love again.”

But before we break out too many sad trombones, let’s look at what that poll really says about women who say they’ll never find love.


1. They’re hurting

It doesn’t take a genius IQ to know that giving up on love is often a reaction to feeling deeply hurt and disenchanted.

It’s the women who have invested the most in a failed relationship who’ve got their fingers most badly burnt. Not falling in love again is a way of protecting themselves in the future.


2. They confuse the issue

Falling in love is not the problem. The real issue is falling in love with the wrong guy. It’s all about missing the warning signs, not seeing the red flags, not hearing the warning bells, whistles and sirens.

Giving up on love is a way of saying, “I don’t believe there’s another way of doing this thing called love, so the only option I have is to wash my hands of it.”


3. They lack self-awareness

Women who fall for a “bad boy” tend to do so more than once. When a relationship goes wrong, first you need time to lick your wounds. Then it’s time to look at the patterns like the kind of man you’re attracted to, the way you act in a relationship, the expectations, and dreams that you bring to the table, what you turn a blind eye to, and much more.

Blind love is often stupid love. It pays to have a clear sight about yourself and your prospective partner before you dive into the romance.


4. They take it too personally

Of course, you can learn something from failed relationships, but too many women learn the misguided lesson that they’re less attractive and worthy human beings than the women who’ve managed to find a lasting relationship.

A far more useful lesson is that failure means they’re simply doing something wrong. That really isn’t a disaster because you can always learn how to change a behavior.

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