10 Reasons Why You Should Date A Girl Who Likes to “Fix” People

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10 Reasons Why You Should Date A Girl Who Likes to “Fix” People

True love is when you accept someone as they are but sometimes, there are some who need just a little push to be better people. Don’t underestimate the power of the girl who likes to fix people. Here’s why you should date a fixer.

She is the type of person who always has spare coffee when you run out, or offers you a blanket and sympathy when your low-down dirty ex-cheats on you.

If you find yourself in a relationship with a girl who likes to “fix” people, you might never be the same. She’ll do her best to help and support you.

If you treat her with respect and kindness and take responsibility for yourself, you might just end up in a relationship that is nurturing for both of you.

Here are 10 reasons the best relationship of your life will be with a girl who likes to fix people.

10 Reasons Why You Should Date the Girl Who Likes to Fix People

1. She won’t give up on you.

This girl won’t give up on you when things get rough. Even if you’re struggling, she’ll be there for you and wait patiently for you to heal.

If everything feels like an uphill struggle, she’ll sit with you until you feel ready to go on.

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2. She’s not afraid of your dark side.

Everyone has a dark side, and most of us try to hide it, too. We’re scared that if the people we love get to know what’s really inside us, they won’t want us anymore.

Not so this girl. She knows you have a dark side. She knows she does, too. Because she’s faced her own dark side, she’s ready to help you face yours.

3. She’s dedicated to growth and self-improvement.

Chances are this is a girl who is dedicated to personal growth and self-improvement. She’s insightful and wise, and she’s not afraid to give you a gentle kick in the butt when you need it.

If someone thinks they have the power to fix you, that’s not healthy. But if she’s smart and kind enough to help you fix yourself, work with her and let yourself heal.

4. She’ll stick with you as you grow and heal.

Someone who is truly dedicated to your growth and healing has real staying power. She’ll stick with you as you grow and heal because she knows it isn’t a quick road and there are no instant fixes.

You can take your time as you work through your problems because she’ll give you the space you need, and stay by your side.

5. She cares about what you need.

This girl is a giver – so be sure you don’t take advantage of that! She truly cares about what you need, not just in your relationship, but in your life. She wants you to have what you need because her love is selfless.

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Take the time to figure out what she needs too and you can build a strong, mutually respectful relationship.

6. She’ll inspire you to be a better person.

Being loved by someone who really cares about you and wants to help you, is powerful. It changes you. You see first hand what true love and dedication look like, and it inspires you.

Let her kindness inspire you so you can take care of each other and learn how to trust and share openly.

7. You’ll learn what it’s like to be loved for who you are.

Being loved for exactly who you are is an amazing feeling. Someone who truly wants to help you doesn’t want to change who you are. Instead, she wants you to heal and will support you so you can become a better version of yourself. More healed, and happier.

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8. You can grow together.

One of the most beautiful things about this kind of relationship is that you can grow together. After all, no healthy relationship is one-sided.

As she helps you heal, so you can support and help her too. It’s a recipe for a mutually healing connection.

9. You’ll learn to give and receive true love.

The openness and acceptance she offers you gives you the space you need to let true love in. Being truly loved opens your heart and makes you want to give in return – so do it! Learn how to love her with the same devotion and honesty and you’ll both benefit.

10. You’ll build a strong foundation for the future.

Working together on your issues can be a strong foundation for the future, with one caveat: You still need to take responsibility for your feelings, actions, and happiness. Don’t rely on her to provide those, but simply accept her love and support so you can fix yourself.

That’s the real key to a relationship like this – fixing yourself with her support so you can build a trusting foundation for your future.

Being with a girl who likes to fix people will show you what a pure heart and genuine love looks like. She will love you in a way you have never been loved before, and that itself is the beauty of a relationship like this.

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If you want to know more about dating a fixer or finding true love, then check out this video below:

Why You Should Date A Girl Who Likes Fixing Other People

Are you someone who likes fixing other people? Well, it’s not necessarily a negative thing, you want them to do better and embrace themselves. Isn’t it? Share your thoughts in the comments below!


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72 responses to “10 Reasons Why You Should Date A Girl Who Likes to “Fix” People”

  1. Jo-Ann Gaudini Tardif Avatar

    Liking to “fix” people is a co-dependency trait. It is not healthy for a relationship.

  2. Roger Diaz Avatar

    Taylor Dillon this describes how awesome and loving you are. So thankful to have you in my life

  3. Isabel Whitebird Avatar

    How awful and tiresome.

  4. Brooke Wildenhain Avatar

    Mike pretty much both of us<3

  5. Mary Chastain Avatar

    No, it won’t be. Nobody needs fixing by anyone else.

  6. Remco Cosphi Avatar

    but be careful not to become lazy because she wants to fix you all the time. One day will come when she will realize she has to take care of herself first and she will cut loose from her life every person taking advantage of her willingness to please others. That day make sure she sees how much you have always respected her and kept the relationship in balance 🙂

  7. Laura Howard Avatar

    Anna Maria thank you. I hope so.

  8. Huynh Van Đao Avatar

    I tried to help and but he didn’t wants to change. Then he forced me to do whatever he wants. If I leave, he’s acting crazy then he says it’s all my fault 🙁

    1. Remco Cosphi Avatar

      doesnt sound like a situation you want to continue …

    2. Tracy Mayhew Avatar

      You might want to Google: manipulator, control freak and liar. Your partner sounds toxic and disordered if he won’t accept responsibility for his actions…..much like my ex.

  9. Huynh Van Đao Avatar

    I tried to help and but he didn’t wants to change. Then he forced me to do whatever he wants. If I leave, he’s acting crazy then he says it’s all my fault 🙁

    1. Remco Cosphi Avatar

      doesnt sound like a situation you want to continue …

    2. Tracy Mayhew Avatar

      You might want to Google: manipulator, control freak and liar. Your partner sounds toxic and disordered if he won’t accept responsibility for his actions…..much like my ex.

    3. Huynh Van Đao Avatar

      🙁 he’s so crazy. When I left, he tried to hurt himself. He disappeared then I felt so guilty. Anytime I close my eyes, I see blood on my hands…

    4. Remco Cosphi Avatar

      that is only manipulation. Let it go, that was his choice. People who do that will hurt themselves just enough to scare you. If you go back you just make it worse.

      You deserve someone who loves you without wanting to own you. Be strong and you will find someone just as strong. I am sure of it. But don’t feel sorry for someone who wants to manipulate you.

    5. Huynh Van Đao Avatar

      Thanks Remco Cosphi 🙂 I’m giving him last chance but I don’t know he would changes or not. I’m still hope he can be a better man

  10. Iris Mendoza-Dominguez Avatar

    Doesn’t give up easily, but also sticks around too long!

  11. Iris Mendoza-Dominguez Avatar

    Doesn’t give up easily, but also sticks around too long!

  12. Jessica Law Avatar

    Yannick Marchand I’m the best

  13. Dörthe Dolata Avatar

    Exactly…and Why again…would that be such a fantastic idea to be in a relationship with a so-called fixer? Nah, that s all about control…and manipulation…such utter nonsense…But sure, please Your selves…Only You know what is good for You…since Everything starts and ends with You…and hardly with someone that wants to fix you into someone that is NOT you from Within!

  14. Giusi Bee Avatar

    this is so stupid. And promotes dysfunctional relationships.i didn’t even read the article because the title pissed me off. Lemme tell you something… as the girl who likes to fix people. That girl (or boy) usually gets into very abusive and toxic relationships. You know who tend to have relationships with these kinds of people? Sociopaths/Narcissists..etc. perfect targets and supplies. Why? Because we give endlessly. We give and give more than we have and we don’t stop. Except , we’re conned. Cuz that person in the beginning who tried their hardest to win us over, does NOT exist. They mirror you..project everything you want and are , just to suck you in and convince you to choose them. Then they take. And take. And take. And not only do they take…but they throw several grenades and bombs in the process. Don’t date the person who wants to fix. Cuz that makes YOU one of them. And highly toxic and dysfunctional.

    And as the person who wants to fix. Fix yourself. And pour all of that into yourself.. so that you will never ever even want to even fix someone. That’s not a healthy relationship. At all.

    Be whole. Find a whole. We cannot fix others or expect people to fix us.

    The title of this article seriously pissed me off … “hey let’s use these type of people to get the best out of the relationship.”

    Yeah. You would get the best. ALL the time. But at what cost? Her life??

    No. I will never be that person again. She is gone.

  15. Giusi Bee Avatar

    this is so stupid. And promotes dysfunctional relationships.i didn’t even read the article because the title pissed me off. Lemme tell you something… as the girl who likes to fix people. That girl (or boy) usually gets into very abusive and toxic relationships. You know who tend to have relationships with these kinds of people? Sociopaths/Narcissists..etc. perfect targets and supplies. Why? Because we give endlessly. We give and give more than we have and we don’t stop. Except , we’re conned. Cuz that person in the beginning who tried their hardest to win us over, does NOT exist. They mirror you..project everything you want and are , just to suck you in and convince you to choose them. Then they take. And take. And take. And not only do they take…but they throw several grenades and bombs in the process. Don’t date the person who wants to fix. Cuz that makes YOU one of them. And highly toxic and dysfunctional.

    And as the person who wants to fix. Fix yourself. And pour all of that into yourself.. so that you will never ever even want to even fix someone. That’s not a healthy relationship. At all.

    Be whole. Find a whole. We cannot fix others or expect people to fix us.

    The title of this article seriously pissed me off … “hey let’s use these type of people to get the best out of the relationship.”

    Yeah. You would get the best. ALL the time. But at what cost? Her life??

    No. I will never be that person again. She is gone.

  16. Lisa Sandona Avatar

    You don’t “fix” people – that’s controlling. People fix themselves. this article is actually silly. You see the best in the person, and encourage them to fix themselves, you don’t do it for them.

  17. Lisa Sandona Avatar

    You don’t “fix” people – that’s controlling. People fix themselves. this article is actually silly. You see the best in the person, and encourage them to fix themselves, you don’t do it for them.

  18. Emily Simisky Avatar

    I didn’t read this article because the title annoyed me too much.

  19. Emily Simisky Avatar

    I didn’t read this article because the title annoyed me too much.

  20. Matthew Cook Avatar

    Fix me and I leave you, simple as that.

  21. Anna Maria Avatar

    Don’t be discouraged. You did good and it will return some day.:)

  22. Woke Up Avatar

    Yeah, that’s me

  23. Evelyn Grace Avatar

    Don’t look for that person (girls and boys alike) – fix yourselves. If you’re already on the path to helping better yourselves as evidenced by the fact that you’re looking for a “helper”, get on that path of self improvement, but spare the helper. Those who live to help others end up being used up, neglected and spit out.

  24. Evelyn Grace Avatar

    Don’t look for that person (girls and boys alike) – fix yourselves. If you’re already on the path to helping better yourselves as evidenced by the fact that you’re looking for a “helper”, get on that path of self improvement, but spare the helper. Those who live to help others end up being used up, neglected and spit out.

  25. Bunny Brando Avatar

    I set up every partner w house love happiness, they all preferred drinking and chasing women

    1. Linda Mon Avatar

      wrong partners?

  26. Laura Howard Avatar

    I don’t agree with the term “fix.” There was nothing wrong with him to be fixed. But I did help him heal. And when he felt strong and confident, he walked away.

    1. Anna Maria Avatar

      Don’t be discouraged. You did good and it will return some day.:)

    2. Laura Howard Avatar

      Anna Maria thank you. I hope so.

  27. Jan Williams Avatar

    Man, this girl has to be exhausted !!!!

  28. Jin Jin Elpedes Avatar

    who can fix who ?? tch. I’m broken born there’s no need to fix,, I love my damages 🙂

    all I need is acceptance..

  29. Jin Jin Elpedes Avatar

    who can fix who ?? tch. I’m broken born there’s no need to fix,, I love my damages 🙂

    all I need is acceptance..

  30. Lily Reid Avatar

    Not in his mind

  31. Randall McLean Avatar

    That was my worst…..the fixer.

  32. Tiffany Obert Avatar

    This is so true!

  33. Adam Sultan Avatar

    Yeah no. The last person that told me I’m quite level headed and I could be the one to fix them. With nitrous under my feet I was up up and away

  34. Adam Sultan Avatar

    Yeah no. The last person that told me I’m quite level headed and I could be the one to fix them. With nitrous under my feet I was up up and away

  35. Sharron Alvi Avatar

    ‘Fixing’ someone is a hopeless, exhausting relationship. The fixer may not give up easily, but the fixer will become exhausted, resentful, and angry.

    The ‘Fixer’ must learn to fix only their self in what ways he/she might want and to accept others as they are, only encouraging others to better themselves in ways they are already actively working on bettering and want help in bettering.

  36. Sharron Alvi Avatar

    ‘Fixing’ someone is a hopeless, exhausting relationship. The fixer may not give up easily, but the fixer will become exhausted, resentful, and angry.

    The ‘Fixer’ must learn to fix only their self in what ways he/she might want and to accept others as they are, only encouraging others to better themselves in ways they are already actively working on bettering and want help in bettering.

  37. Jim Crandell Avatar

    Once she “fixes” you then she will leave you saying you are not the same person I met.

    1. Remco Cosphi Avatar

      hahahaha do i detect some experience in that comment?

    2. Diane Savastano Rae Avatar

      It’s more like once she fixes you which ultimately is committing to loving you unconditionally , he tells you that you need help because of codependency ?! Or his feelings have changed for you …. Usually after he is all fixed up and has enough self esteem to move on either on his own or with someone else . Oh yes…….. Been there . Twice .

    3. Remco Cosphi Avatar

      Diane Savastano Rae it seems she knows what she’s talking about, so maybe respect her enough to not give her unasked advice?

  38. Jerry Kontos Avatar

    I don’t need fixing, as I am not broken. But I would like someone to love, and to love me in return…

  39. Jerry Kontos Avatar

    I don’t need fixing, as I am not broken. But I would like someone to love, and to love me in return…

  40. Tricia Cronan Avatar

    Eventually you give up and head for counselling yourself. Soul destroying trait I have abandoned.

  41. Tanya Taylor Avatar

    I’m sorry but…this girl is heading for one messed up relationship. Fix is such a terrible term for this instance. But the article gave me a couple laughs.
    “Fixing” implies something is wrong or out of order. How can you accept someone’s imperfections and embrace them, while trying to “fix” them. Just my opinion.

    Change the word to support….that would fit be better.

  42. Tanya Taylor Avatar

    I’m sorry but…this girl is heading for one messed up relationship. Fix is such a terrible term for this instance. But the article gave me a couple laughs.
    “Fixing” implies something is wrong or out of order. How can you accept someone’s imperfections and embrace them, while trying to “fix” them. Just my opinion.

    Change the word to support….that would fit be better.

  43. Brian Murray Avatar

    Isn’t that a codependency trait?

  44. Brian Murray Avatar

    Isn’t that a codependency trait?

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